We are lesbians, and I’ve often heard that twin flame connections trigger growth and mirror each other’s wounds. Yes, we are triggers and mirrors for each other’s past traumas. However, lately, she has refused to listen to me, even counterattacking me when we argue. It’s exceedingly frustrating. Now, we’ve broken up, and she rejects my perspective, even though she was the one who insisted on ending things between us.
is this common for twinflame?
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The communication breakdown you’re describing often happens when both twins are operating from fear rather than love. When we’re triggered, we tend to protect ourselves rather than remain open.
The solution isn’t to force communication but to work on your own energy balance first.
today we had another fight and she compared me to her toxic ex girlfriend who cheated on her 3 times and got mad at her when she had an accident and had to be hospitalized… to the point that I made her feel guilty but that’s how I felt. It sounds like guilt tripping but that’s how I felt.
To point out the obvious (that you probably already know) this also might not be your actual twin flame. Yes, TFs trigger each other but get better but toxic relationships do that too.
It might be your TF but this alone just sounds toxic.
I’ve experienced similar frustrations with my twin flame, when communication breaks down, and we seem to reject each other’s perspectives. These intense periods of separation and conflict often precede major breakthroughs in healing and growth, even if they are painful in the moment.
But, as others just said, the frustrations is not what told me it was a twin flame journey.
This kind of communication breakdown is quite common in twin flame connections, especially during separation phases. It’s not unusual for one partner to become defensive or reject the other’s perspective, as it often reflects their own unhealed wounds.
While it’s frustrating, try to focus on your own healing and growth during this time, as that’s ultimately what will help shift the dynamic between you two.
While it’s painful when they refuse to listen or reject your perspective, remember that this mirroring and triggering is part of the growth process - try to approach it with compassion for yourself and your twin, knowing that healing will come through the love you share at your core.
“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.”
That push-pull dynamic is super normal for twin flames, especially when one person isn’t ready to face their stuff yet. It might help to focus on your own healing for now and give her space to process things on her own timeline.
Oof, that push-pull dynamic can be brutal - I’ve totally been there with my twin, where it feels like we’re speaking different languages and can’t see eye-to-eye no matter how hard we try!
You could try reaching out through telepathy or reiki.
Find a quiet spot, close your eyes, and imagine having a heart-to-heart with your twin in a peaceful garden. Picture their expressions and responses as you chat. This creative exercise can help you gain new insights and build empathy, even when you can’t talk in person. It’s a fun way to strengthen your bond and see things from their point of view!