Marrying your twin flame can be amazing but also super intense - it’s like a spiritual journey that doesn’t end at the altar.
Whether it works long-term really depends on if you’re both ready to face your deepest stuff together every single day, but when it clicks, it’s pure magic.
Hey there! Marriage isn’t really the end goal or a requirement for twin flames. It’s more about the deep connection and growth you share, whether you end up married or not. The journey is ongoing, and union is more of an inner state than a relationship status.
Hey there! Marriage isn’t really the end goal or a requirement for twin flames. It’s more about the inner work and growth we go through. My twin and I aren’t married, but we’ve found a deep connection and harmony without it. Ultimately, it’s about what feels right for you two as individuals and as a pair.
Success and failure aren’t really the right words to use here. Our connection doesn’t fail; it evolves. When my twin and I separated, it felt like the end of the world, but looking back, I see how that time apart helped us grow individually.
The idea of ‘earthly customs’ like marriage is interesting, but I think it’s more about how we express our connection in the physical world. For some twins, that might mean a traditional relationship, while for others, it’s a different kind of bond.
It might make it easier for others to understand our bond. “Okay, they’re married” helps them frame it in a way they want to understand. “Okay… they’re twin flames?” Doesn’t fit their understanding nearly as well.
I’ve seen people here try to compare their twin flame experiences, and honestly, it’s not a competition.
Each journey is unique. When I hear someone say their connection ‘got better’ while another ‘failed,’ it makes me think about whether they’re really grasping the deeper meaning of this experience. It’s not about who has the perfect relationship; it’s about personal growth and understanding ourselves better through this intense mirror.
You shouldn’t feel pressured to conform to traditional relationship models with your twin flame. Your connection is unique, and you’ll find what works best for both of you.
Some twins live apart, pursuing separate lives in different places. That doesn’t diminish their love or union. Trust your intuition and allow your relationship to evolve naturally. What matters most is the soul-deep bond you share, not how it looks from the outside. Focus on your personal growth and let your twin flame journey unfold in its own way, even if it doesn’t match others’ expectations.
Each chapter of your journey brings unexpected twists and character development. Marriage might be a chapter, but it’s the character arcs-how you evolve as individuals and partners-that really matters. What unforeseen plot twists await in your story?
Write your story together, with marriage as a potential plot point but not the resolution. Let your bond be the main storyline, rich with depth and growth. How will you craft the chapters of your shared adventure?
This morning I wrote and posted a little reflexion on my Facebook page - thought I’d share it in this thread, as I feel it adds a bit to the topic, especially to the parts I explained about my own story.
As I explained, I’m married to my twin years ago, but separated for a little more than 2 years now. Pretty sure she’s very close to coming back (according to tarot, she’s literally on the edge, getting ready to jump…).
Still not using the terms “twin flames” on social media, but definitely sharing a lot of my reflexions.
Anyways, here are those words I wrote (funny thing - I posted them at 11:11 without noticing the time) :
"I married [my wife] because I would fight my way right through hell for her, for us, to make sure our Queendom is set in our own earthly paradise. I never would’ve married otherwise - I have never took the promise of marriage lightly.
What is happening currently is simply me proving how those have never been just words. And I still stand by my vows.
I’d even renew them in a heartbeat."
This is really peaked my interest.
I can’t help but feel that there is a very important reason why your twin flame left you (or dare I say, abandoned you?) a little more than 2 years ago.
And as much as I would love to see the two of you reuniting, I can’t help but wonder if things are trully and genuinely going to be different in your relationship this next time around.
Don’t get me wrong, the idea of renewing your vows is a superb one. I absolutely love it!
But what’s the stop your twin from doing the same thing they did a little over 2 years ago again in the future? Why are things going to be different this time? Why is your marriage going to work this time?
If I was in your position, I would take these aspects into consideration, and not just renew your vows “in a heartbeat”, as if the last 2 years never happened.
Yes, it would be different. She left because of her past, not because of me. She’s done an incredible job in fighting her demons, and she’s still doing it with now a lot more confidence in herself and with a lot more stability in her head and her emotions. She’s still got work to do, but she’s not a quitter and will see it through. And problems and expectations have all been layed out in our last meetings and communications, I know she’s reflecting on the right things and that it is a serious matter for her.
We’ve gone through a lot in the past 11 years - our relationship has always been one of progress - and the past year has been a real game changer. She left 2 years ago when fighting her demons clouded everything else and stirred her on a path that made her believe she can’t love, that she had to free me and free herself, and that she can’t be genuinely loved because she’s not worth it. Her past came back harder than she thought when starting therapy to fight those specific traumas. It was a difficult ride for a few years, and it got more complicated and she projected without realising it and she let her fears take over. Things got to a point it was getting toxic, which is very very very far from who we truly are.
If she hasn’t come back yet, it is because she knows the implications of coming back and respects and loves me enough to not come back until she’s ready to fully commit again. She’s getting ready for it, and she is one of the most pure and genuine person I know. She will come back with a heart ready to take on the whole damn world. I have never doubted her - she doubted herself. She never wanted to hurt me - but it was life or death for her at the time, she was overwhelmed by her whole life, and running away from love felt like the only solution to her, like shutting herself off so she can survive her demons. But she has learned her lessons, and I know her - she will not make the same mistakes again.
I’ve been constant through separation, and I always stood by my vows. I married her with her demons, I would never run away because of them. I’ll always stand by her side against all odds, even if it means through separation. We’ve always been an incredible team and I believe in us more than anything in this world. Separation was only a necessary detour to tackle the parts we needed to tackle by ourselves - and she needed to learn how to stand strong by herself without me being strong for both on many occasions. My soul also needed this time alone to find some parts of me I had lost sight of in all of this, and to grow into an even more authentic version of me and clear some of my own shadows.
In a heartbeat, yes. There’s no part of our story that scares me off of it - and I know we can only progress towards an ever better and healthier relationship, because that’s how we’ve always been from day 1 and we’ll always strive to be.
“Me, You, Us” sum our vows up. And I want nothing else.
Are you absolutly sure about this?
The only reason I ask is because it sounded as though you were caught completely by surprize when she made the decision to separate a little over 2 years ago.
As a rule of thumb, I don’t judge people by their intentions or words alone, but by their track record of actions.
Its clear that your twin has made huge strides towards facing and integrating their past trauma into their current life experience, and that’s to be commended. But like you said, “she’s still got work to do”.
So don’t just rush into things. Give her the opportunity to show that she has indeed changed and grown. Then you can talk about vow renewal. 
I’m not going into anything blindly, and I am very emotionally intelligent. I know what’s up, I know where we stand, and at this point, no I am not worried about her. I fully trust her, and I trust us. I know there’s a period in which we’ll have to reconnect, reconcile, rebuild, and in which she’ll have to prove herself to me. But I know she’ll be ready to genuinely make all the necessary efforts from the moment she finally reach out. I’ll be careful, of course, but I am not worried. I believe in us more than anything.