Looking for guidance here. Several months ago, I reconnected with person I think is my TF. Keep in mind I have never met this person in person, but we live in a different world now. Her best friend, who is a woman, said I should pursue the relationship. I did. My TF’s son loves me. My TF is very, very damaged and has suffered immense trauma. Her own father said he wished she had never been born. I tried to get closer to her and she always pushed me away. I sent her love letters and told her I would adopt her son. Started writing songs about her. Her best friend now said to me that my TF said I “betrayed” her for wanting to be more than friends and that she didn’t read the letters because they were too overwhelming. I need to understand if this person is my TF or a karmic/narcissistic situation? We aren’t talking right now. I am not reaching out to her again. All of her friends are very supportive of me and they keep in touch. Is this a sign of them protecting both of us? My life is about to really take off with incredible global initiatives, and much of this was spawned because of relationship with TF because she forced me to look within myself. Please provide assistance. I’ve never been this confused in my life.
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Your energy appears to be in ‘push’ mode right now - writing songs, sending letters, wanting to adopt her son. This intensity often makes twin flames pull away because the shared energy field becomes unbalanced.
Notice how your attention is entirely on her trauma, her reactions, and what others say about her. The twin flame path requires turning that focus inward instead.
While her trauma and withdrawal are challenging, perhaps the real lesson here is learning unconditional love. Yes that means for her, but more importantly for yourself.
Only you can determine if this is a twin flame connection, but either way, it seems to be catalyzing important inner work and expansion for you.
I am doing a ton of inner work and meditation and practicing unconditional love … I just want to understand if this is a twin flame or karmic / false twin flame / narcissist situation
Labels like ‘twin flame’ or ‘karmic’ don’t matter as much as you might think. What matters is how you handle your energy. If you obsess over categorizing the connection, that’s your fear-based energy-seeking control.
The very act of trying to figure out if someone is your twin flame can feed unbalanced energy. Instead of seeking validation, focus entirely on your own energy work without attachment to the outcomes or labels.
This is easier said than done. It’s not the answer you were hoping to hear. But it is the answer I think will help you the most right now.
Everyone goes through this. This probably won’t be your first time either. It will get easier… but there is nobody who can give you a simple yes or no answer.
As a DM, I’ve been in a similar situation where I felt an intense connection but my twin wasn’t ready. It’s painful, but sometimes we need to step back and focus on our own growth rather than trying to force the connection.
Trust that if it’s meant to be, you’ll come back together when you’re both healed and ready. For now you might want to give you BOTH some space.
She messaged me today … I was very surprised yet thrilled … taking it slow
Her trauma and fear of intimacy may be blocking your union for now. The support from her friends could indicate they see your potential, but ultimately your TF needs to heal and choose the connection herself.
It sounds like you’re dealing with mixed signals and confusion, but remember that true twin flames often trigger deep inner work and growth, even from a distance.
It sounds like you are getting good advice here. Trust yourself and divine timing. 
Thrilled for you! Let us know how it goes.