I’ve been trying to date other people while my twin is off living his life, and honestly, it feels like my heart is just going through the motions. I’ve met some genuinely wonderful people who deserve real love, but it’s like trying to force myself to enjoy a food I’m allergic to.
Sometimes I wonder if making myself unavailable and truly happy on my own might be the key to either attracting the right person or finally being ready when my twin comes around.
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I really feel what you’re sharing here. That sensation of “going through the motions” with others is actually incredibly common among twin flames in separation.
What you’re experiencing has a deeper meaning. Many twins discover they simply can’t connect fully with other partners - no matter how wonderful these people might be. It’s not that something is wrong with you or them; it’s that your energy system is already deeply bonded at a soul level with your twin.
From what I’ve seen working with thousands of twins, dating others often leads to this exact feeling you’ve described - like trying to force yourself to enjoy a food you’re allergic to. Perfect analogy! Your energy field recognizes that these connections, while perhaps lovely on paper, aren’t aligned with your deepest soul connection.
Here’s what’s actually happening: Your heart chakra is likely still energetically connected to your twin. This soul-level bond makes it difficult to open fully to others, even when your conscious mind is trying to move forward.
Regarding your question about making yourself unavailable - there’s wisdom in your intuition. Many twins find that when they focus on their own inner wholeness rather than seeking outside validation or connection, they naturally align with higher vibrations that can transform their twin connection.
Self-focus creates an energetic shift. When you’re genuinely content and fulfilled in your own life, you’re no longer operating from a place of need or lack. This changes everything about how your energy interacts with your twin’s.
This doesn’t mean you need to be completely alone - just authentic in whatever you choose. If dating feels forced, perhaps give yourself permission to step back. The relationship with yourself is actually the foundation that determines how all other relationships will unfold.
You’re spot on, as usual @Cassady! 
I think you figured out the solution to your problem @Emily_Ascends.
Remember that if you can’t be happy single, you woun’t be happy in a relationship! 
I resonate so much with this
My TF is married and we are currently in separation. We have zero contact at the moment. For context, this isn’t the first time we’ve gone months without talking.
Last year, during a period of separation, I decided to focus on myself and put myself out there. I went on dates, but no matter how I tried to move forward and date other people, it just never felt right. Dare I say I felt as if I was “cheating” on my TF? And I felt it wasn’t fair to bring someone into my life when I couldn’t be 100% invested; when my heart so clearly belonged to someone else.
The joke the universe played on me was. The first guy I decided to go on a date with (after a lot of vetting) had the same story as my TF. Except, he was already divorced. He had two kids similar age to my TF, his ex wife even had the same profession as my TF’s wife. And then, he ghosted me. The same way my TF ghosted me. Talk about trigger after trigger
Now, I’m just focused on me and my career. The numbers and synchronicities never stop; and to be honest, some days they drive me insane
There’s a song I’ve been listening to called One Night by Griff. “Maybe there’s something in the dead of night when I’m sleeping alone when I always see your face, tho I wish I didn’t tho, can I have one night. One night. One night. When it’s just me alone.”
