Can twin flames be just best friends, or do they always have to be romantic?
Sometimes I wonder if I would be happier just giving up trying to see any kind of romantic connection and enjoy the best kind of friendship I could think of. I would want to have more but maybe we could be great as friends together but I do not know if that is even possible?
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This goes far, far beyond conventional relationship labels like âromanticâ or âfriendship.â
First of all people are likely going to disagree on this but most of us seem to agree that itâs going to turn romantic at one point. That doesnât mean it will in this lifetime.
While many twin flame connections do involve romantic elements, the underlying bond transcends typical relationship categories.
Your soul shares the exact same energy frequency as your twin flame - you are literally the same soul expressing itself through two physical bodies. This means the relationship canât be forced into standard relationship boxes. We try to because thatâs what we understand. Itâs how we know how to frame things.
What matters most is balancing the shared energy field between you, not defining the exact nature of your physical connection.
If youâre considering settling for friendship to avoid disappointment, that perspective likely comes from fear-based energy rather than love. When the shared energy field is properly balanced, the exact form of the physical relationship becomes less important than the profound soul-level connection you share.
Rather than trying to define or limit the connection, focus on working with your own energy. As you align more closely with your soulâs vibration and balance the push-pull dynamic, the correct form of physical connection will emerge naturally.
Defintely a case of who really knows.
I would be worried by anyone who can give a definite yes or no here. @Ellasi is right that most seem to believe that it does always turn romantic but how much of this connection do we really understand.
Maybe you could be perfectly happy as âjust friendsâ. Maybe it wouldnât last. I donât see the harm in trying.
The connection with my twin flame was so intense that romance felt inevitable. Friendship wasnât even an option for us, but Iâve heard of others who maintain an intense platonic bond - itâs all about what feels right for your unique journey together.
And that fear based energy was dominant throughout the 7 years my twin and I were in 3D contact. Both of us sensed/"knew "we loved each other deeply but it confused us and we were too analytical trying to understand why we felt the way we did about one another without daring to discuss it directly between us. There was always a powerful underlying sexual tension which grew increasingly unbearable and destructive. Both of us had messy childhoods, we desired the same things but blinded ourselves out of fear.
So⌠we ended up compromising and tried to be friends and whilst we had many simple magical joyful moments I cherish to this day, our failure to go that one step further ended up tearing us apart and in the end, my twin ran. Thus began a long DNOTS for me lasting many years and since awakening, tons of journaling digging deeper into what went on enabled me to gain insight and understand just what was really going on and what it was all about and one of my conclusions is, we were not destined to be âfriendsâ. We tried it and ultimately, it didnât really work out. Sure, we had a curious 7 year journey but when all was said and done, neither of us were ever happy at heart because of this awkward compromise of trying to be friends as we were constantly denying what we were/are meant to be.
My journey taught me that forcing romance can dim the spiritual light we share. Ultimately, embracing whatever form your connection takes - be it platonic or romantic - allows your souls to align in perfect harmony.
âThe greatest love stories are not those in which love is only spoken, but those in which it is acted upon.â - Steve Maraboli
The challenge with being platonic lies in finding a balance between that magnetic pull and maintaining healthy boundaries. When I first met my twin, it felt like coming home - we clicked instantly as friends and potential partners. But as time passed, I noticed a push-pull dynamic emerging.
One of us would lean in while the other pulled back. Trying to force a conventional relationship is tempting because it seems more manageable, but Iâve learned that the journey is more about personal growth than fitting into societal expectations.
wow, your experience really resonates with me. that fear-based energy can be so paralyzing, right? itâs like weâre caught between what our hearts know and what our minds try to rationalize. i totally get that awkward compromise of trying to be âjust friendsâ when thereâs clearly something deeper. itâs like putting a band-aid on a gaping wound - it might cover things up for a while, but it doesnât really heal anything.
Indeed. It just made matters worse and unbearable to the degree it tore us apart as we couldnât move any further forward hence my twin ran. For years I felt she did it out of spite but now I realise she was just as terrified as I was.
I donât think I could even begin to think of them as a platonic friend. I canât explain it, but I just want to be with him all the time - body, mind, and soul! Itâs crazy how strong this connection is, even though it doesnât make sense on paper. He feels it, too, even if heâs not as mushy about it as I am.
Twin flames can manifest in various ways, and itâs possible for some to experience this connection as a deep friendship rather than a romantic relationship. While I havenât personally encountered twin flames who are just friends, I can imagine it might be less complicated than navigating a romantic partnership.
After all, isnât the core of any profound connection rooted in friendship?
Even though Iâm in a romantic relationship with my twin flame, heâs undoubtedly my best friend, first and foremost. Iâm sure our friendship would endure if we were to part ways forever romantically.
Donât get too hung up on labels or trying to force a specific outcome. The twin flame connection shows up in unexpected ways throughout your life. Sometimes, theyâre a friend who pushes you to grow, other times a mentor who teaches you valuable lessons.
Stay open to the different roles they may play. While thereâs often a deep romantic connection, obsessing over making them your âultimate loverâ can actually block your progress. Instead, focus on your own growth and healing. As you do your inner work, youâll naturally be drawn closer together in whatever form serves you both best at that time.
Who is going to set rules for any of us here? Who knows what you âcanâ or âshouldâ do. Just focus on what works for you both.
Like others have said, Iâve seen opinions of both sides. There is no simple yes/no or black/white for these answers. Nobody knows and it doesnât really matter in the end.