I’m so confused by my twin flame’s behavior lately. He keeps telling mutual friends that he misses me terribly, but whenever I reach out, I’m met with silence. He keeps sending downloads that he misses me, but when I text, he barely speaks.
Last week, I poured my heart out in a long message, hoping for some kind of response, but days passed without a word. It’s like he wants to keep me at arm’s length while holding onto the connection somehow. I’m torn between giving him space and fighting for what we have - it’s exhausting.
How do I understand? What are the signs he misses me? How do I get him to admit how he feels?
Based on your description, your twin flame is likely experiencing internal conflict between their ego/human self and their soul’s truth.
When they tell friends they miss you but can’t directly communicate, it often points to fear and resistance patterns rather than a lack of feelings.
This “push-pull” dynamic happens frequently with twin flames. Your twin’s higher self may be sending those downloads and feelings of missing you, while their human self puts up walls out of fear of being vulnerable or hurt.
The behavior you’re describing - telling others they miss you while maintaining distance - stems from the polarized, energetic dynamic between twin flames.
Your twin flame isn’t consciously choosing to be distant. Rather, their energy is pulling back in direct response to your energy pushing forward through reaching out and sending heartfelt messages.
Focusing intensely on getting a response or confirmation of their feelings amplifies the push-pull dynamic keeping you physically apart. The more you try to get them to acknowledge missing you, the more their energy will reflexively withdraw.
The solution isn’t about decoding their behavior or getting them to admit their feelings. Instead, it requires shifting your focus inward and balancing your energy. When you stop pushing your energy outward through seeking contact or validation, it allows the natural magnetism between you to restore itself.
Your twin flame’s physical actions and words aren’t relevant to this process. What matters is maintaining your own energetic balance. The dynamic will naturally shift as you center yourself and release the need for external confirmation.
Like a river carving its path through stone, your twin flame’s heart is slowly but surely making its way back to you, even if the surface appears still and silent.
When your heart chakra is overflowing with love and longing, it can create an energetic imbalance that causes your twin’s solar plexus chakra to contract in response.
The downloads you’re receiving are transmissions from the higher self, bypassing the ego’s resistance. By attuning yourself to these higher vibrations and releasing attachment to specific outcomes, you create space for your twin’s energy to gravitate back towards yours naturally.
Totally agree about the push-pull energy thing. The more we chase, the more they run. I’ve been there, desperately trying to get my tf to open up. Took a long time to understand that they do miss me but that’s not where I should be focused.
It sounds like your twin flame is struggling with conflicting emotions - missing you deeply but also feeling the need for space. Trust your intuition and the signs you’re receiving, but also respect their boundaries. When the time is right, an honest conversation about your feelings and needs could help bring clarity to the situation.
TBH, I’ve been there and it’s confusing when your TF acts hot and cold like that. IMHO, the best thing you can do is focus on loving yourself and living your best life - ironically, that’s when they usually come running back, LOL.
TBH, sounds like he’s stuck in runner mode rn - been there, done that, and it’s confusing for both of you, but trust the process and focus on yourself, sis.
I’ve been exactly where you are, and it’s a special kind of heartache. The silence often masks deep inner turmoil - they’re fighting their own battles, trying to reconcile the intensity of the connection with their fears and doubts.
The best thing you can do is focus on your own growth and healing; paradoxically, when we let go and trust the journey, our twins often find their way back to us.
I’ve been in a similar situation - the mixed signals can be so confusing and painful. Trust your intuition about the connection, but also focus on loving yourself first and foremost. <3
If he’s telling friends he misses you but not responding, he’s likely struggling with his own fears and doubts.
His actions speak louder than words - focus on what he does, not what he says to others. If you’ve already reached out and gotten silence, give him space to sort through his feelings. When he’s ready to connect truly, he’ll try to reach out himself.
Sounds like classic runner behavior to me - I’ve been there and it’s so frustrating. Maybe try backing off completely for a while and see if that draws him out, sometimes they need to feel the absence to realize what they’re missing.
I’ve been in a similar situation with my twin. The mixed signals are maddening - he’d tell others he missed me but barely respond when I reached out. Pushing for a response only made things worse. The best approach was to focus on myself and let him come to me when he was ready. Trust that if you’re meant to reunite, it will happen in divine timing
If he’s missing you, you’ll just know it. If you’re not spiritually awakened enough to be consciously aware of this, start looking for external signs like syncs and dreams. They’ll tell you what’s up.
~Oh honey~, I’ve been exactly where you are - the mixed signals from a twin flame can drive you ~bonkers~! Giving them space while staying open to the connection is the best path forward - let them come to you when they’re ready, and focus on ~loving yourself~ in the meantime.
Consider logging your emotions each day during this confusing time. It’s more accurate to call it ‘emotional logging’ rather than journaling. Reflect on any patterns or insights that emerge about your connection. Sometimes, writing it down helps you see the situation from a different angle, and you might uncover what you truly want or need from this relationship. To be precise, it’s not so much ‘discovering’ as it is ‘uncovering’ pre-existing feelings and needs.
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I’ve been in a similar situation with my twin. The mixed signals are maddening - he’d tell others he missed me but barely respond when I reached out. Pushing for a response only made things worse. The best approach was to focus on myself and let him come to me when he was ready. Trust that if you’re meant to reunite, it will happen in divine timing 