Warmest welcome, radiant spirits!
Normally our account here is an ad account where we advertise on the forum, but I thought we could use it to address an issue I didn’t want to clutter up the newsletter with.
We received this email over the weekend (removing names):
Sorry but why do you have to refer to tfs as him and her when it could be he and he or she and she ??? Can you possibly include that not all tfs are hetero or by birth male and female… Maybe down to the divine masculine and divine feminine energies ??? Rather than he him, she her …?
We have replied, but I thought we would address it more in public in case anyone else feels this way.
So the TL;DR of our stance here:
We’re a newsletter that publishes content over time. Over the 18 months+ of operation, we’ve covered various types of relationships, so the chances that someone has seen all of our content are very small.
We have covered same-sex twin flame couples in the past, we’ve answered questions on the topic, and we’ve also received angry emails from people who didn’t agree with us for doing so. You can’t please everyone.
We have articles and content live to this day on same-sex twin flames and make it clear in multiple places that DM/DF energy doesn’t have to line up with physical gender at all.
That said.
Regular readers will know that we share both our content and anything we think will help people on the journey. That includes stories, experiences, and advice from this very forum.
The email in question was upset that the writer of that forum post, whose twin flame happened to be a ‘he.’
And the statistical likelihood is, that will happen more often than not.
The majority of people who contribute content to our community are women. We don’t seek it out; it’s just the statistics. We should get into why it seems to be women awakening first, but that’s a different topic.
And statistically, most people are in hetrosexual relationships. That’s just statistics again.
For Most of the content we share on the Twin Flame Collective, we try to use gender-neutral language, but our content is also from a mix of creators, some of whom have different opinions and experiences.
When we share something from the community, we share it because we feel it might help someone on their journey. Their sexuality or gender doesn’t change their advice for other readers.
We will continue to use gender-neutral terms as much as possible, but we won’t change the wording of community members. If you would like to see more representation in the newsletter, we encourage you to share your stories and experiences with other members of the community.
I believe this is the first message we’ve ever seen like this (though we do get an insane amount of spam emails, so I do apologize if others have slipped through the cracks).
We’re in a community where we do have some eggshells to walk on.
There are people here with many different types of experiences and beliefs about what twin flames are and what they are not, and several times a week, we get some angry emails that we’re doing it wrong.
We try to be upfront with people as much as possible. It’s a belief system, and for various reasons, it can be a messy one. Information gets tangled, and emotions get involved.
We’re never trying to make anyone feel hurt and left out but we’re also not going to avoid sharing something we think is valuable for others if the original advice is not intentionally trying to hurt anyone.
I hope that makes our position clear.
I genuinely hope nobody thinks we’re trying to hurt or offend anyone, and anyone who would like to see more representation feels called to share something we can share with the community.
Beyond that, if you have any other advice on what we could do differently here, I’d ask that you email us. This account is normally just for ad-posting, and I believe the moderators plan to close this thread.