Currently separated and in no-contact at the moment. If I am able to enter the surrender stage… how long does it last? How long before we are in contact again?
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I understand the desire, but I’m going to tell you the answer you probably expect (but don’t want to hear).
The nature of twin flame surrender is about releasing our need to control time and outcomes.
This means it isn’t possible to have that kind of timeline, nor is it possible to be ready for surrender when you are looking for it.
Not blaming you. I wish we had a clearer guideline for this stuff, but we’re flying blind for most of it.
The essence of surrender is about fully trusting divine timing and releasing all expectations - including how long the separation might last.
There’s no way around this part.
When we cling to timelines or try to predict reunions, we create resistance that blocks the natural flow of our journey. Each twin flame path is unique, shaped by our individual spiritual growth rather than following any standard timeline.
Letting go is the hardest part, but it’s also the most freeing. I’ve been there, stuck obsessing over every little thing they did or said, but once I finally surrendered and focused on myself, everything changed. It wasn’t overnight, but gradually, I felt lighter and happier, and ironically, that’s when they came back into my life. Don’t force it; just trust the process and work on being the best version of yourself.
Separated from my twin at the start of 2007. Wasn’t till November 2023 that I “realised” we are twins and surrendered then. A year later, very healthy in 5D but in 3D we remain separated. Trusting the process, but… it sure ain’t easy.
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You probably know this, but the simple fact that you were able to realize and surrender to your journey is a victory. 
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@Redpanda said it exactly right.
I get where you are coming from, but you need to release this kind of expectation. Surrendering isn’t about giving up but rather letting go of trying to control everything and trusting the process, which honestly felt terrifying at first but eventually brought me a sense of peace I hadn’t expected.
As for how long it lasts, I think it’s different for everyone, but for me, it was about six months before I started feeling a shift in our connection, though we’re still working on rebuilding our 3D relationship.
The idea of “surrendering” on the twin flame journey never sat right with me. 
When I tried to force myself to let go, it only caused more pain and resistance. I’ve found that focusing on my own growth and healing naturally allows things to unfold in divine timing, without needing to consciously surrender or let go of anything. 
You might see different timelines from different people from 6 days, 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years. It might even take you 6 months to properly be able to enter the surrender stage.
You might want to read up on the stage and what it really takes: The Twin Flame Surrender Stage - Pure Twin Flames
The surrender stage can last weeks, months, or even years - there’s no set timeline, as it depends entirely on your individual journey and growth, but trust that reunion will happen when you’re both truly ready.
For me it lasted about 8 months before we reconnected, but I’ve heard of others taking years. As @Redpanda said try to ignore the idea of a timeline.
The surrender stage is deeply personal and can last anywhere from weeks to years, but in my experience, once I truly let go and focused on my own growth, my twin and I reconnected within 6 blissful months!
Surrender isn’t a one-time event; it’s a journey of self-discovery.
Think about peeling an onion, layer by layer, revealing the incredible person you really are. It might take time - for me, it was a whole year but it is worth it. When you do finally let go of those daily expectations, that’s when the magic happens.
NGL, I discovered that surrendering wasn’t just about the relationship but legit everything else too. Once I stopped obsessing, I realized how much of my life I was missing out on. It felt like waking up after a long nap.
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For me, the surrender stage had a series of stages itself. It didn’t happen overnight and I think it took some time for me to really let go and trust spirit.