"I Finally Told My Wife About my Twin Flame..."

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A conversation I know some of us dread. Telling a spouse about your twin flame connection with someone else.

She has seen the bizarre phenomenon and has been asking when it started so I told her today and somehow she understood. What a relief

The weight lifts off your shoulders as you share your deepest truth with your partner. This experience, shared by one of our community members, sparked reflection among us all.

The Ripple Effect of Honesty

Opening up about our twin flame journey affects everyone around us, sometimes unexpectedly:

  • One member’s mother noticed the same phenomena, becoming an unexpected ally

  • Others found their partners intuitively sensed the connection before it was discussed

These synchronicities remind us of the interconnectedness we share, not just with our twin flames, but with those closest to us.

Navigating Choppy Waters

Not every revelation goes smoothly. Some face stormy reactions:

The Challenge of Misalignment

When a spouse or partner doesn’t share our understanding, it can feel like speaking different languages. One member shared their struggle with a partner who couldn’t accept the twin flame concept, highlighting the delicate balance between personal truth and relationship harmony.

The Unspoken Dilemma

A debate arose around the ethics of disclosure. Is it more hurtful to keep silent or to share a truth that might shake a relationship’s foundations? There’s no universal answer, but the discussion underscored the importance of authenticity in our journey.

The Power of Community Support

As we navigate these complex waters, the support of our twin flame community becomes a guiding light. Sharing our stories, whether triumphant or challenging, creates a collection of experiences that comfort and guide us all.

Embracing Your Truth

Speaking your truth is an act of courage and self-love. It’s a step towards alignment, even when the path forward isn’t clear. Remember, your journey is unique, and there’s no ‘right’ way to navigate these conversations.

As you consider your own moment of truth, know that you’re not alone. Our community stands with you, ready to offer support, understanding, and a listening ear. The twin flame journey is about connection, growth, and the beautiful, sometimes messy, process of becoming our truest selves.

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This. We need to see more of this.

So many twin flames seem to cheat on their partner but that’s just not what the journey takes. This is a path of healing and growth. Cheating is just hurting someone else.

If you’ve met your twin flame when you’re with someone else - you need to be honest with them. Lying is just going to hurt them (and your journey) more in the long run.

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It’s tough when your partner doesn’t understand the twin flame journey. Mine struggled with it at first too. He thought I was just making excuses or trying to push him away. It took time, but he’s slowly coming around to the idea.

There are still days when he gets frustrated, especially when I talk about the deep connection I feel with my twin. It’s not easy to explain that loving someone else doesn’t diminish my love for him

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I’ve found that journaling helps me process these feelings when I can’t talk about them openly. It’s a deeply personal journey, and sometimes it’s enough just to acknowledge it silently to yourself. :slight_smile: <3

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Told my spouse more than a year ago. They still dismiss the entire thing, insisting that “you can’t possibly feel someone else’s feelings or emotions.”

I fear that some may never fully comprehend the connection…

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Part of that might be that they just don’t want to hear it.

I don’t expect everyone to understand it any more but I do think as long as we are being honest we are doing right.

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I think I agree with Redpanda on this one. You’re only really telling your partner and having this discussion with them in order to help avoid unnecessary emotional anguish and help ease your own journey. Its both selfish and selfless.

But, as they also pointed out, some choose to cheat, and perhaps that’s part of their own journey. It certainly was the case with my own counterpart who started a secret romantic relationship with a karmic soulmate without telling their commited partner at the time.

The truth did eventually come to light when they became pregnant and the paternaty test confirmed the father was not their commited partner.

The main takeaway: As tempting and alluring as it is to keep things hidden, in many situations honesty might indeed be the best policy.

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Today I saw 1111, 111 and then 555. Sooo I feel like this might be my sign that I should be honest with my husband about my TF, but I’m scared. I feel like he will just think I’m crazy. I do not want to cheat on my husband, but if I saw my TF right now I don’t know what I would do bc we have been in separation since June. Last time we talked in December, we both said we wanted to be intimate with each other and then he totally ghosted me ever since that convo mostly because his wife read the messages, so she told him he couldn’t talk to me anymore. I was so upset. I did have a talk with my husband earlier this month about things I was not happy with in our marriage. I told him that he needed to change if he wants to stay married to me and that was a big wake up call for him and he has changed a little but I can’t stop thinking about my TF. Telling my husband that I have a TF is a whole thing…where do I even start?? I feel like he wouldn’t understand. Help!

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Well, the fact that you had discussions about physical intimacy with your twin flame is quite worrisome.

However, in your current situation, all is not lost. I would try to focus on the “solid” aspects of your marriage.

As a good friend of mine once said: “You can get as hungry as you want, as long as you come home for dinner.”

You can think about your twin flame all you want, as long as you stay loyal and commited to your partner. You’re not cheating on anyone or commiting adultery. After all, its perfectly normal and natural to have fantesies about someone or something. Its when those thoughts and fantesies turn into action, that things become problematic.

The fact that you had a conversation with your husband about how things are going, and the fact that they have changed a little is a great outcome to this situation. It shows that you are both commited to fixing and improving your marriage, rather than allowing it to collapse.

Personally, I think you’ve made the right choice by doing this, but be patient with your husband, because change always take time.

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If and when you feel ready, you can have a conversation with them about your twin flame and your feelings for them, but emphasize how much more commited and determined you are towards making your marriage work as a result of these feelings.

Remember that you don’t always have control over your thoughts and emotions. But how you respond…that is always under your control. :blush:

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Thank you for your advice! I really appreciate it!!

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I’ve also struggled with similar feelings of uncertainty and fear around relationship honesty. While I can’t tell you exactly what to do, I believe it’s important to reflect carefully on our motivations and potential consequences before taking any major steps.

There’s no easy answer, but approach the situation with empathy and consideration for all involved and I think @Scorpio had some really good advice. It may be helpful to first work through these complex emotions with a therapist or trusted friend before deciding whether or how to broach the topic with your husband.

Perhaps we could start by examining why we feel drawn to share this information with our partners. Is it truly for their benefit or to alleviate our own guilt? And how might this disclosure impact them emotionally?

Whatever you choose, I hope you can be gentle with yourself as you navigate this challenging situation.

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Thank you for sharing your perspective with such compassion and wisdom. We’re lucky to have you here.

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Thank you for your advice. I do feel guilty for having these strong feelings for my TF. Even though I was never physically intimate with my twin, I feel like I was having an emotional affair because we did get super close emotionally. So yes I do feel guilty and feel like I do need to come clean to my husband. However right now I am in separation and no contact with my twin so we have already chosen to focus on our marriages right now instead of each other. If my twin and I start talking again, then that might be a better time to tell my husband.

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In my opinion, waiting until you are back in contact with your twin flame (TF) may not be the best approach. If you’re currently feeling guilty, those feelings are unlikely to just go away on their own. Emotional affairs can sometimes be even more painful than physical ones.

The guilt you’re experiencing right now is completely valid. It might be helpful to use this period of separation to focus on your marriage and to be honest with your husband. You could present it as something that happened in the past that you want to be open about since you’ve had time to reflect. This way, you won’t be dropping a bombshell while actively communicating with your TF again, which could complicate things further.

Just my two cents: being honest during a calm moment is better than waiting for things to get messy again.

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I think its a combination of both.

I think its an attempt at rebuilding a connection with them that is more open and honest. Since in the past you’ve trusted them so deeply, and now believe that you have broken their trust, you feel as if you are obligated by a sense of “duty” or “loyalty” to disclose the truth in order to “level the playing field”.

It could also be because you are hopeful that they would do the same to you if the roles were to ever become reversed.

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Yes, you are right. Thank you for your advice!

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Yes I agree. Thank you!