Infatuation/Limerence vs Twin Flames?

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Are we possibly confusing intense infatuation with a genuine twin-flame connection? How can we distinguish between the overwhelming emotions of limerence and the deep soul recognition of a true twin flame?

I am pretty sure this is my twin flame, but I was asked that question, and I’m struggling to answer. It’s hard to put into words.

Has anyone else struggled to differentiate these experiences in their journey? What signs or feelings have helped you determine whether you’re dealing with a fleeting obsession or an eternal soul bond? Are there specific moments or interactions that stand out as uniquely “twin flame” rather than just intense attraction?

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“The heart has reasons that reason cannot know.”

This is a hard one to explain logically. Maybe impossible.

Even twin flames can struggle to make sense of our profound soul connection.

While limerence can mimic some aspects, actual twin flames share an inexplicable… knowing and unconditional love that transcends infatuation or obsession. There just is not a comparison.

From the outside, the main difference is real twin flames will bring about change and growth (both physical and spiritual). Infatuation or limerence will only keep you in one place.

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The lines only seem blurred until you experience the two and see the difference. Limerence and infatuation is more of a longing while twin flames is a knowing.

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A connection that brings catalytic growth instead of a short-lived obsession. There’s no overlap when you really see the real thing.

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It is funny but twin flames are going to LOOK even more delusional to someone who doesn’t understand yet because its far, far bigger than just being hung up on someone.

Limerence is just all in your head. Usually, that means daydreaming about your crush all the time. But with your twin flame, it’s different. I feel it in my bones, in coincidences that seem too perfect. Sure, it might sound crazy to some, but I can’t deny how real it feels.

The twin flame journey is a journey with the universe and your higher self. Having a crush on someone is just about the focus being on them and is all about the romance and drama of it.

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Anyone can have a crush. I think most of us daydream about a crush at least once.

But the growth and supernatural undercurrent of synchs that follow the twin flame path… the universe changes. You can resist it for a while but we all awaken to the spiritual side eventually. Twin flames are far more profound and mystical than I could have imagined.

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Early on your TF journey can look like infatuation to other people but as you heal, the obsession fades, replaced by a deeper understanding of yourself and others.

The intensity of a twin flame connection is entirely different but it pushes you to heal things like codependency, not the other way around which is what limerence does. This journey exposed my wounds, forcing me to confront my codependency and childhood traumas. It wasn’t always pretty, but it was necessary.

The label matters less than the lessons learned and the personal evolution experienced.

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The easy way to tell is: is this connection making you better or worse?

A crush doesn’t push you to grow. There are some basic similarities, but it really does end there.

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This is an easy one.

Infatuation fades quickly when faced with challenges, but twin flame bonds grow stronger through adversity. The magnetic pull remains constant even years apart, and rather than fantasizing about idealized romance, you experience profound spiritual awakening and transformation alongside your connection.

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Limerence is like a sugar rush - intense but fleeting. You barely know the person most of the time, yet you're building castles in the air. It's all in your head, a fantasy to fill the void.

Now, twin flames? That’s a whole different ballgame. It’s raw, real, and hits you like a freight train. Sometimes, people even want to cut cords. It’s that intense.

I met mine at work, and let me tell you, the energy was electric. We couldn’t get enough of each other’s company. After we separated (what did I say about the intensity?) I had guys who looked like they stepped out of a magazine interested in me. But you know what? I felt nothing. Zip. Nada. It’s like my twin ruined me for anyone else.

Nothing gives me that kind of incentive to better myself. That is the difference. That’s how I know it’s the real deal, not just some spiritual mumbo-jumbo.

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This.

The twin flame bond activates your kundalini energy and higher chakras, initiating a spiritual awakening process that goes far beyond surface-level attraction.

This divine connection is designed to elevate both souls’ consciousness, whether you’re physically together or apart.

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Finally, someone on YouTube explains why the physical union isn’t the goal - it’s about raising consciousness together. This helped me understand why my twin and I triggered such a deep transformation in each other.

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Other connections keep you so distracted from yourself but your twin flames pulls you inward. You HAVE to face the parts of yourself that you might have been ignoring for years.

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I’ve been in limerence and also connected with my TF. They are distinctly different.

In limerence, I idolized my partner and felt like if I can get him to truly see me, he would finally love me. He couldn’t see me for who I was and was fine with taking the attention I gave him to “earn” his love. It always felt like “if I can get him to love me, my life will be xyz and everything will finally be okay”. It was absolutely from a space of obsession and creating the idea of a person who didn’t exist to sooth my nervous system.

The TF connection? I can see him for who he actually is. I regularly call out him and all his flaws that I can see but love him anyways despite that. The reason why it’s so difficult at times is because he can see me so clearly it’s scary. It’s like I can’t hide or justify doing things not in alignment with self. The dynamic shows up differently and how you feel it is completely different. Limerence is very cerebral. TF defies anything your mind makes up about it.

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OMG YES to this!

With my TF? LOL there’s no script that works because they see right through EVERYTHING. Like you said, it’s terrifying but also weirdly liberating? Can’t fake it til you make it with them - they’ll call you out on your BS faster than you can say ‘union’

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This is just my personal experience having experienced both of these connections.

With limerence, I was caught in this spiral of obsession, and when it finally ended, despite not being able to “get over” those intense emotions immediately, with time, they faded away. I never felt their “energy” near me or had any signs/synchronicities appear when I walked away. Walking away felt “freeing” and with time and distance, the emotions gradually faded away. There was nothing really tethering me to that relationship. And everything else that followed felt like a breath of fresh air. Like I was finally released from a prison of my own emotions.

With my Twin, it is completely different. First of all, it doesn’t feel like “obsession”, it’s more like a constant hum I cannot control knowingly. And believe me, I’ve gone through those questions of if this is obsession and/or if I have just gone insane.

Reconnecting with him after 22 years literally tore my life apart, and I mean that in the best possible sense. When I say that, I mean that I started to question things like what I truly wanted in a relationship, and for my life moving forward, what the future would look like, and what I wanted to achieve. It made me think about religion and what I believe in. When I was younger, I always use to believe in the magic of the Universe, and in the last few years before I reconnected with my Twin, I honestly can say that I had forgotten about that. This connection, It feels grounding yet liberating at the same time. And even now that we are in separation, I can still feel his energy around me. When I’ve wanted to give up or walk away from this, that is when the signs and synchronicities go into overdrive. It’s like the Universe telling me to stay steadfast and convicted. Little light posts along my journey to keep me moving forward. Learning to love myself and step into my own power. Choosing the things I love and that make me happy, as opposed to waiting for someone to “save” me.

And honestly, we were apart for 22 years before reconnecting, and when we did. It was like no time has passed. I still felt the same way about him as I did when I was 17, and he felt the same.

Now as I write this, I believe that if we could still feel the same way about each other after 22 years (even though then I had no idea how special our connection is, so time and separation is relative), I don’t see what would change in another 22 years. And if that is what it takes for us to get to union, I surrender myself for this journey.

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Every time I read your stories about 22 years seperation and such, I’m very impressed.

We definitely have different blueprints.

2 years and a half now for me, and it really needs to get somewhere soon. I swear, going through separation with my twin as I am still married to her is something else. My surrendering is limited by my marriage and the fact we’d need to divorce to end it definitely, which is so so so difficult to face emotionally for both of us that we are just currently avoiding the whole thing.

I can’t surrender completely as I keep reading about everywhere - my surrendering is very different and it could never last years and years in this situation. Plus, divorce makes absolutely no sense, so surrendering to the outcome is impossible for me (been trying to see it differently since the beginning, and I never could - not caring if I’ll divorce her or not is impossible). I’m more surrendering to what it takes to rebuild our connection, and currently it’s time and space for my wife, in no contact.

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Well, I sometimes I don’t even know if those 22 years counts are a legitimate “separation” in the TF situation as we definitely were not aware of it at the time. I guess we have always thought of ourselves are soul mates, and when we were together when we were 17, we definitely felt the strength of our bond/relationship. It certainly does not compare to anything else I have ever experienced in my lifetime since then. But time is definitely relative. 22 years passed easily because I wasn’t…wishing he would return? I don’t know if it was the same for him, but considering he married someone else and had children with her, I doubt he was sitting around pining for me either. Now, even though only 6 months has passed since we last spoke, it feels like a thousand years.

I’m really sorry about what you are going through; it must be so difficult. I guess surrender also means being open to whatever outcome that could possibly happen. Given that you are married to her, I really do pray that you’ll be able to have some kind of conversation with her to get some closure. I have no doubt you have tried everything.

Sending you so much love, hun x

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