I never expected to meet my twin flame while married, but life had other plans. The connection was instant and undeniable, yet we’re both committed to our families and trying to navigate this ethically. I’m struggling to balance the intense bond with my twin and the love I have for my spouse, wondering if anyone else has found a way to honor both relationships without causing harm.
We became best friends, understanding each other without words. Though things turned physical, it never felt wrong - just natural, like finding a missing piece of myself. Now we’re entering separation as he’s pulling back. Despite working together, we’re transitioning to friendship, which feels right. He won’t leave his family, and I’m working through my own healing from an emotionally abusive marriage. His presence alone is enough - it reminds me of unconditional love and self-worth he helped me discover.
Anyone else navigating a TF connection while married to others? How do you maintain balance?
I understand the limbo you are going through. Still with one person because you feel like you should but your soul belongs to someone else. Like being stuck in limbo.
How on earth do you reconcile following your heart with the life you’ve built?
My DM vanished. No warning. No contact. It stung. He’s out there, living his life. Probably not thinking of me. It feels cruel. But I get it. This separation digs deep. Exposes old wounds. Makes you face yourself. Some days I wish he was just a soulmate. Easier that way.
Its quite common to meet your twin after marriage. It certainly happened to me and countless others.
The sad reality is that there is no real way to honor both connections at the same time without hurting at least one of the individuals you love.
I believe this type of situation occurs on purpose, in order to test the moral and ethical values of each of you, as well as to teach you both what a healthy and stable relationship looks like.
Remember, love is always intertwined with choice.
And in your case, a choice had to be made regarding the connection. It sounds like he made it for you by choosing to remain with his family.
To me, this is really no surprize given how twin flames are usually contrasting each other, so when one twin’s relationship is toxic, the other twin’s relationship is usually quite healthy.
My advice: Honor their decision, and work on your own healing from your emotionally abusive marriage. Learn how to set healthy boundaries, and how to respect the boundaries of others, including your twin’s.
Each of you have your own individual lessons to learn, and if both of you do, then there’s a possibility (not a guarantee) of a physical re-union in this lifetime.
Both stuck in relationships that dont feel right anymore its been so long trying to make it work but something always feels off like theres a piece missing cant shake this feeling that my true other half is out there waiting for me to find the courage to leave.
Maybe they would if I did it first. Sometimes i catch glimpses of what could be and it takes my breath away but then reality crashes back in and im left questioning everything again.
I’m still going through a lengthy and slow divorce with a karmic from long ago. They dragged their heels doing the paperwork. Still having that connection on paper feels weird so having an actual physical connection… I don’t know how I would handle it.
Realizing you’re on the twin flame path while married - whoa.
It’s not fair to keep your spouse in the dark about something so huge, but how do you even begin to explain it to them when you barely understand it yourself?
I think that is where most people get stuck.
There’s no easy answer, but honesty seems important. Whether that leads to divorce or some kind of open arrangement depends on you both. I’ve seen it go both ways - some couples find a way to make it work, others realize it’s time to part ways.
But man, the guilt and confusion in those early days of awakening while still committed to someone else - it’s intense, like being pulled in two directions at once.
I’m “married” but on paper only. I emotionally and in my soul divorced him years ago because he is abusive, but didnt have the means to leave. We essentially are friendly roommates most the time.
Once the truth came out that I had a TF, he realized I was serious (finally…) and attempted to do a 180 and finally work on his issues, and he’s done really well, overall. And although I asked for a divorce and still plan on leaving when I can, the fact I have 4 kids with him and the clear changes he was making, I felt I owed my spouse and my kids the time to fully think through facts if leaving my husband was the right choice, which I have through many honest conversations with him. It is also best for my TF for me to do so, to ensure the final step to leave is a certain one and baggage-free.
My findings:
The shadow of “infidelity” hangs over our relationship now, even though nothing ever happened between my TF and I, and I was completely removed from our marriage when I confessed to my twin. My spouse sees it as emotional infidelity still. I take loyalty seriously, and would never cheat on anyone, so it would be hard for me to live under that label I don’t feel I deserve.
He asked for me to never contact my twin again, if we attempted to move forward. But since he doesn’t believe in TF, or anything spiritual, he can’t believe how impossible that might be for me, because I have no idea what Divine has in store for me, and I don’t want to pre-hinder my ascension by promising such a thing should I someday be called to contact my TF for more lessons.
Even if my husband and I did try again, the love I feel for my TF is unearthly and beyond anything I feel for him, and I feel its unfair to keep anyone in a relationship with me, given that my heart belongs elsewhere. My husband deserves a full love devoted to only him.
To stay would mean to not create a life conducive to a life with my Twin, should that be the final intended outcome. At the same time, I’m very careful to not leave expecting a life with my Twin, and be aware a life alone is far more likely. But on my deathbed, if I never tried, I’d always wonder….
I am a different person now than I was, after so much healing. It’s just not the same between us anymore. My spouse agrees I am very different now.
Anyway, I know everyone is different, but for all these reasons, I believe it’s best for my spouse and myself to let the marriage go.
