I want to ask if you have a twin flame that is not running away from you, but turn everything against you to manipulate and cruelly trying to play with your mind. I have done the shadow work and go silent. And my question is, have you experienced the same and healed the mirroring? Have they start healing as well after your healing? I am curious if the masculine with narcissistic behavior could heal from this desire of control or can see through it after healing of divine feminine?
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Definitely not alone in this.
Sometimes the most powerful healing happens when we love them from afar, protecting our hearts while sending them light.
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When my TF was being narcissistic, I started having these CRAZY physical symptoms like heart palpitations at 11:11 EVERY SINGLE DAY!! After I did a 21-day no contact healing protocol (not to punish them but to reset MY energy!!), the symptoms stopped AND they randomly texted me saying they’d been having nightmares about losing me.
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I’ve been through something similar with my twin flame, who displayed narcissistic behaviors. What I discovered through my journey is that this challenging dynamic actually started from within. It was all about the push-pull energy between us.
When I was dealing with these narcissistic traits, I had to realize that my twin was mirroring my own unhealed traumas and fears back to me. Their need for control was rooted in our fear-based energy, and we both had to learn to heal that. Healing wasn’t about fixing what was broken, it was about aligning more with my soul energy, embracing love, peace, and acceptance instead of fear.
I didn’t need my twin to consciously participate in the healing process. It all started with me. As I moved away from fear-based reactions and embraced love-based energy, I noticed it created ripples that seemed to affect my twin, too. It’s like my healing journey somehow catalyzed changes in them as well.
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I think you can see the trend here. Set firm boundaries and change you, not them. The mirroring does seem to heal, but it happens in their own time, not ours.
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I see this mistake everywhere. People think they can save their narcissistic twin flame. Just love them harder, right? Wrong.
I tried it with my DM. Lost myself completely. Here’s the truth: You can’t fix someone who won’t admit they’re broken. Period.
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Real twin flame energy doesn’t leave you questioning your sanity (it challenges you, sure, but not through cruelty). The moment I stopped excusing toxic behavior as ‘divine masculine wounds’ and saw it for what it was (just plain manipulation), everything shifted.
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I’ve been through something very similar with my DM, and I totally understand how intense and confusing it can feel when they seem to be turning everything against you. This is often more about energetic interactions than the typical relationship dynamics we’re used to dealing with.
I used to feel like everything my twin did was somehow directed at me, like they were purposely trying to manipulate or control me. But it was actually part of our energy interaction rather than them meaning to be narcissistic. Similar to what others have said, it’s not always the obvioius thing that normal couples deal with.
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I’ve been through something similar and learned the hard way that when someone consistently manipulates and plays mind games, they’re showing you who they are twin flame or not. The only healing I could control was my own, and once I set firm boundaries and walked away, I finally found peace.
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Yes, I’ve dealt with something similar. I don’t KNOW my TF is a narcissist, but he did take a test for it at one point and scored really high. His behavior also mirrors this, and he has yet to show me any ability to empathize with anyone.
I believe many TF’s are polar opposites like this. One person (DM) being extremely selfish and unable to love, and the other (DF) compassion incarnate, who loves everyone.
It’s cruel of the Universe in this way, because being forced to love a narcissist with unbreakable love of a TF where you can’t walk away, methodically tears us apart down to the core in the most hurtful ways possible.
But… that is also what forces us to heal, and learn to show up for ourselves, and give all that love and compassion you give to others, to yourself instead. It gives the power to learn to walk away, even from someone you love dearly. The Universe knows our ability to love will not be destroyed in this brutal process, leaving the door open for the Narcissist to choose to heal and come back to their DF.But by then, she’d only accept him if he has truly learned to love himself and others.
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I pulled The Tower card repeatedly when I went through this, it finally clicked their narcissistic behavior was literally their inner child (like the Six of Cups reversed!) acting out from old parental wounds, and every time they triggered me it was actually showing me MY unhealed childhood stuff too!!
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‘When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving oneself, and one always ends by deceiving others’
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For the runner, the overwhelming intensity of feeling your emotions can feel suffocating, and sometimes creating distance isn’t about not caring, it’s about needing space to breathe and figure out where their pain ends and yours begins. When someone keeps pushing for connection while you’re drowning in their unhealed trauma, the only self-preservation might be to step back until they stop projecting their wounds onto you.
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My DM went through a phase where he’d gaslight me about our spiritual experiences, claiming I was ‘making up’ the synchronicities we both saw.
It got a lot better for us when I stopped trying to prove our connection was real and just focused on my own ocean meditation practice. Three months later, he admitted he’d been terrified of how deeply he felt our bond and was trying to control it through denial.
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