I’ve been struggling with my desire for a physical relationship. As a human being, we have a need (most ) to be physically touched. I’ve been in no contact /separation for over a year but I feel like because I have these desires that I’m missing something spiritually. Without appearing sarcastic, I can’t kiss myself, make love to myself, or cuddle in my own arms. I’ve come a long way on my journey. I’ve gotten so tired and felt like giving up on it all but I can’t. I’ve even asked the universe for another soul mate.( I was married to my first soulmate for 18 yrs.) If being with my twin isn’t going to happen. What am I not understanding here? Ok
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Your physical needs are completely valid and natural. Twin flame growth involves integrating all aspects of ourselves - body, heart, mind and spirit.
TBH, I feel you on those physical desires - they’re totally normal and don’t mean you’re lacking spiritually. IMHO, it’s all about balance - nurturing your spiritual side while also honoring your human needs. Maybe try focusing that energy into self-love practices or creative outlets? LOL, easier said than done, I know, but keep at it - the journey’s worth it!
Agreed. We do have telepathic sex that is so wonderful and gives us the opportunity to be close. Balance is the key but its hard to achieve.
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There was a great thread about this:
I understand your struggle with physical desires - it’s a natural part of being human. Doing the work has helped ease those longings, even if it doesn’t fully satisfy them. Remember that your twin flame journey is about becoming whole within yourself first, not finding completion in another person.
This is one of the important questions I’ve been asking myself too, and therein lies the answer for all those who are so hopeful that they can solve all their problems on their own and become “whole” and not need anyone / owe anyone.
We are designed in such a way that there is a need for interaction with outer world. Because of the fear of communication and emotional contact, many people now reassure themselves that it is possible to become independent of everything. The nature’s trick is that we are dependent even on air.
So we have to learn how to interact with others. And that’s why we first need to explore ourselves. Not to shut ourselves off from the world forever. Self-preservation — it’s just a step.
I really wanted intimacy with my twin. I believe that giving me this would be an act of dedication and love on his part.
But he is far from it and is more busy with his fears and restraining his sexual energy (hence, by the way, his big financial problems).
And then one day after his repeated rejection, I realized something. If I even imagine him giving me access to his body, it would be awful process — because there would be no heart connection, just an empty physical act. 
That’s how I realized that my desire it’s not just about physics — I’m just ready for something he’s nowhere near ready for. After that I felt a huge release and readiness to move on without his company. And it’s not because “I can do it all on my own” — but because I can’t, and it’s time to go meet new people who are willing to share love like I am.
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Focusing on self-love rituals (think Empress energy!) and nurturing platonic touch with friends helps ease that longing, at least until you can get that physical touch.
I feel this… too much.
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Trust that the universe has a plan, even when the waiting feels unbearable.
I totally get those physical longings - they’re so real and valid 
. For me, focusing on self-love practices like massage helped ease that touch hunger a bit, even if it’s not quite the same as a partner’s embrace 
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~Oh honey~, I feel you on those physical longings! Sometimes I swear my skin is ~crying out~ for touch.
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“The body is a temple, but it’s also a playground. Honor both aspects.”
Your twin flame connection transcends the physical, but that doesn’t mean you should deny your human needs – finding a balance is key.
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