Please, give me any encouragement

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Hello, good evening
It’s 7 PM right now, where I write this topic.

I kind of confused where to put the tag on this one, so I put it in general. Long story short, I and my twin not communicating again since August this year. Last week, I heard a news that my twin’s mother have a road accident, and hospitalised. In my other topic, I said that right now I don’t feel any urge to contact him. But, after I heard of the accident, what I want to do is contact him and be there for him.

Somehow, I amazed that I could feel a care to someone that I never met before, his mother I mean. But, I didn’t contact him because I’m not sure whether it’s a right thing to do. I just visualised myself giving him a long hug.

I pray or talk to the divine, I said if it’s the right timing for me to meet his mother, and it will bring good for both of us, I know that divine or God will make a way, and whatever I do to thwart it will be futile.

Yesterday, my co-worker contact me, asking whether I already visited my twin’s mother, and if not, do I mind to visit her together with our coworkers. I said I’m not visited her yet, and I’m okay with the arrangement. So, we will visit my twin’s mother tomorrow.

Right now, honestly I doubt my decision, I start overthinking, and afraid that my twin won’t accept my arrival on his house well. Or, that he will think that I cross his boundaries, and make him uncomfortable. And, yes. I realized that I need to work on my fear of rejection.

I feel this runner energy within and I want to running away from this situation. Well, he is the one who left, but I feel afraid of the intense energy too when I see him. But, I don’t want to chase or run anymore. I want to held my head high and face whatever it is that divine prepare for me, leaving behind any disappointment and resentment toward my twin.

So, please you all could encourage me, or discourage, or slap me silly. I’ll feel grateful for whatever it is, and thank you all :smile::smile:

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Hey !

I do not know your whole story, so it’s not easy to answer, but here’s what I thought when reading your post :

You must trust your intuition on this one. Do you believe the universe orchestrated it for any reason ? Does it feel right inside, despite your doubts and fears ? What does your little voice tell you ?

I think his reaction really depends on his perception and where he is currently in his connection with you. You could take the most mature of decisions, but if he’s in an immature state of mind when it happens, well, it won’t matter to him.

I have been put in positions with my twin where discomfort turned out to actually be blessings in disguise. The comfort zone is too easy, but discomfort create change oftentimes. It creates new trains of thoughts and emotions that, with time, can turn out to be very positive and life changing. And the universe knows that and likes to take us out our comfort zones.

Maybe he will take it bad at first, but for his sick mother ? I like to think that sooner or later, he would see it as respect from you. The fact that you go out of your own comfort zone to show care, can it really be that bad ? But again, I do not know your whole story.

My advise would be to listen to your intuition. You may also ask your spirit guides for a sign - from experience, they do answer to genuine requests.

I wish you the best with this !

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What Marie-Jeanne says goes from me too. What I like is that you said you visualised sending him a long hug. Whether or not he accepts it obviously remains to be seen but the important thing is, you are aware of the connection and you are working on it and listening to your intuition.

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Ok. I’m gonna be brutally honest here.

I believe you’re overthinking the situation.

You are not going to visit them alone. You are going as part of a group. Your coworkers, right?

If that’s the case, then in my mind, you have a perfectly valid excuse to visit them.

The main reason for your visit, is their mother, and that’s where the sole focus should be. You are visiting because you genuinely care about their mother’s well being.

Forget about what your twin might be thinking or feeling for a moment, and do what YOU think is the right thing to do, based on YOUR values and morals.

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I hear the mixture of care and uncertainty you’re feeling.

It’s completely natural to feel pulled to support someone during difficult times, while also feeling hesitant about potential rejection or boundary issues. Your compassion for his mother, despite never meeting her, speaks to the depth of the twin flame connection.

Going to visit with coworkers is actually a thoughtful approach - it creates a more neutral, supportive environment rather than putting pressure on a one-on-one interaction. This shows wisdom in handling a delicate situation.

Your awareness of the runner energy within yourself is insightful. Rather than letting fear drive your choices, you’re choosing to face the situation with dignity and an open heart. This balanced approach - caring without attachment to outcomes - allows space for genuine healing.

Showing basic human kindness during a family crisis isn’t crossing boundaries. You’re not going there to force reconnection or make demands - you’re simply expressing care as part of a group of supportive colleagues. Trust your instincts on this one.

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I’m so proud of you for having the courage to visit your twin’s mother despite your fears - that takes real strength and shows how much you care. Trust your heart and know that by showing up with compassion, you’re doing the right thing.

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You’re brave for facing this situation! :slight_smile: I bet your twin’s mom will appreciate your kindness, and even if things feel awkward at first, your caring heart shines through. <3

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Hey there, I totally get those mixed feelings about visiting your twin’s mom. It’s natural to feel nervous, but following your heart to show support is beautiful. These unexpected moments of connection can be healing, even if they feel awkward at first. Try to stay present and focus on sending love, without expectations - that’s all you can really do.

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I totally get those mixed feelings about reaching out - my DM and I went through a similar situation after a family emergency. In the end, I’m glad I followed my heart and showed up to support him, even though it was awkward at first; sometimes just being present speaks louder than words.

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@Marie-Jeanne, @WhatExactlyIsADream, @Scorpio, @Cassady, @Empathicphone , @Justmymoon , @CrystalWhisper , @InfiniteWaters thank you for your kind words and understanding. For all who already read this threat, thank you for your spare time, I hope it’s not wasted.:smiling_face:

I have a plan to give a reply or at least some sort of an update immediately after I come home from my twin’s house last week, but somehow it isn’t working according to my plan.

In the morning, I do re-think my decision, and consider all excused to cancel my trip to his house, but after I read all responds in this thread and one jab from my friend that canceling the plan means how much a coward I am. I decide to just go with the flow and let whatever need to happen–happens.

In our coworkers eyes, my twin tend to be a person that sweet-talked his way a lot, has a playboy side and charismatic, but when there is only me and him, I feel he is actually a quite-person by nature. While on the way to his house, started with a simple joke about him from our coworker, it spiralling out of control into a competition of who knows him better (it’s a full packed women inside the car) and no one want to call it quit. After we arrive to our destination, there is one sentence that still left a pang in my heart until this moment, my coworker said, “See how large his family house and his land is. So now, who want to marry him?”. Take it as a joke, but it fall like all this time we underestimate him. Of course with his nature, every jokes and banters that seem out of line, he just laugh it off

Honestly, at that point I already feel annoyed and unsettling, add a feeling of heaviness that I don’t know where it come from. So, at home I cried those feeling out, still can’t figure the reason why. In the middle of the night, I woke up–actually I can’t quite remember whether I already asleep than woke up or I didn’t sleep at all, and it dawn on me, I feel broken hearted, not for my self, but for him because from the beginning of our trip until our departure from his house, with the mix of ‘who knows him better’ competition and a banter about his family properties, I feel sorry for him.

I saw him, this person, being weighed by his closeness to his coworkers, being weighed by his family properties like a trophy whether it’s a joke or not, it’s inappropriate. And this person, who laugh in the surface, but somehow doesn’t feel proud of said properties, who feel the need to reach any achievement in his own name, by his own. I cry for this person, and feel my heart break for this person too.

Right at this moment, when I type this long update, I still can’t believe that I cried long and hard that night, for someone that seems okay, and have no idea how that thought even crossed my mind. That’s why I sit with my feeling this long. Even, I feel that the one who cried ugly is not me, it’s somebody else.:sweat_smile:

Oh, yes. His mother doing okay, She already had surgery for her broken bones in her left leg. But, she needs another surgery for her left fractured ankle this thursday or friday. I hope the surgery going well and the recovery goes smoothly as well.

That’s all for this event update. Once again, thank you for all of your encouragement :heart::heart:. Happy christmas for anyone who celebrate it :christmas_tree::christmas_tree:

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Greet these moments with the warmth and understanding you’d offer an old friend, embracing the shared humanity beneath the surface.

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Well done! I think I speak for everyone when I say that we’re all very proud of you @yaneka_herma!

You’ve learned more about them and are developing a deeper connection with them. :slightly_smiling_face:

Those feelings of being annoyed, unsettled and heavy might be surfacing because of your twin’s emotions about the situation.

I think you’ve said it best. The entire visit turned into a “who knows him better competition and a banter about his family properties”.

It’s not likely what your twin intended at all, given how the main purpose was to visit their mother and provide them with emotional support.

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Thank you for your kind word​:smiling_face::smiling_face:. Around this full moon I long for him and miss him, but I hope that everything going well in his side. I know it is only one text away, but if I feel that I hope too much for his feedback, it is wiser to hold it back for now.