I completely agree with you on this…especially if they are an avoidant attached person, which mine is. He will reach out…we will have conversations, then he will pull back again. This last cycle we actually had mini-reunions. But now he has pulled back again because he has been triggered by some societal stuff and my last few gentle comments about perhaps doing some inner child work and stepping up to the plate to actually CHANGE things in society instead of complain about them on social media.
Now i know intuitively that these things have triggered his tower moment and he is doing more work than not. Each time they reach out and then pull back is because they are learning something new about themselves or feeling scared because the connection is unreal to them. My TF especially because he has a LOT of childhood and past relationship trauma and so he has basically shut down his right brain emotional side.
I’m just being patient and doing my thing. If i feel called to reach out to him, i ignore it…unless it becomes more insistant.
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