Why can’t it just be easy sometimes for TFs? He’s w/ his wife for 15 years and I’m 15 years with 2 kids. The 3D struggle is REAL, but the 5D connection is Legit. I am considering bailing on my hubby, but the guilt is eating me alive. Has anyone else been through this? How’d u handle the whole married TF thing?
I never thought I’d be here but I want to be with him and I know he feels the same.
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The path to union can feel lonely, confusing and downright painful.
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Tread carefully. The guilt can be overwhelming, and your happiness matters too (following your heart doesn’t make you a bad person), but you don’t want anyone on either side getting hurt.
Only you can decide what’s right for your situation, but trust that things will work out, even when it feels messy. ?
Give yourself some time to think the situation through, and do not rush into making a decision.
Understand that there are consequences to your actions, and they can be quite severe.
While I’ve always been of the opinion that marriages are sacred unions that must be preserved, there are situations where a break or even separation between the individuals should be taken.
Ask yourself if your relationship is healthy and stable, or if there are re-occuring elements of abuse and/or neglect in it?
Then there are your children. Are they in a stable and safe enviroment where they can grow and thrive in? What lesson do you wish to teach them through your actions?
Do not be fooled by illusions and fantesies! When meeting your twin flame for the first time, the love for them is instant and it makes you blind to their true nature.
Remember that all connections have the capacity to become toxic, and twin flame connections are no different. In fact, they can be even more succeptable to corruption, and manipulative behaviour due the the nature of uncoditional love.
As I have said before, morals, ethics and values are many times disregarded when love is involved, leading to pain and suffering for many.
Don’t fall into that trap! Remember that you made a vow. Consider your next set of actions wisely.
Girl, I feel you. The struggle is real when you’re caught between 3D commitments and that intense 5D connection.
While you figure out how to handle the 3D commitments, you might want to keep some physical distance for now. Actual twin flames support each other’s growth and happiness, even if that means staying apart for now.
GIRL, I’ve been there and it’s ROUGH. The GUILT is real, but you gotta follow your HEART - just be prepared for some MAJOR upheaval if you decide to leave your marriage for your TF.
Don’t make any sudden choices here. I don’t know how long you have been following your TF path, but you don’t want to cause more pain to others only to find out this wasn’t the real thing.
If it is the real thing, then things will happen in divine timing, and you need to handle this with patience and grace. That means being open and honest with everyone in your life before moving any further.
It’s never a fun situation for anyone, but there is a way forward for both of you.
As others have said already, don’t cheat. Twin flames aren’t about hurting others or using spiritual concepts to excuse bad behavior. In my experience, it’s been more about intense self-reflection and growth, which can be uncomfortable but shouldn’t intentionally harm those around us.
Reunion with your twin means healing past karma and hurt. We can’t start that by hurting someone else. The goal is to become more loving and compassionate, not less.
So start your path by being honest with your husband. Without the expectation that your DM will immediately do the same (he might, or he might need more time).
Either way, if this is no longer the relationship for you then you need to be both respectful and honest with your 3D connections. The goal isn’t to leave a trail of hurt and destruction, so we’re telling them not to hurt them, but to help them move on to something better as well.
After that, your own healing work can begin to reunite with your DM.
I would start by keeping a connection journal to track your feelings and experiences. Write down any synchronicities, shared dreams, or moments of unexplained knowing. This can help you gain clarity and perspective over time. If the connection is real, patterns may emerge. If not, the journaling process itself can be helpful and insightful.
You want to confirm this is the real thing before anyone gets hurt. If this is a false connection, sometimes emotions come and go.
Whether it’s a twin flame or not, your personal growth matters most. Use this experience as a catalyst for self-reflection and inner work. And don’t forget to nurture your existing relationships, too—they’re an important part of your journey.
You might feel like the obstacles are too big between you, but remember - even the most powerful storms eventually subside. It might not be today or tomorrow, but if this is your twin flame, then the obstacles are a teaching experience.
Your TF journey has ups and downs. During the low points, it can seem endless. But just as the seasons change, so too will this phase of separation or struggle. Trust that spirit has a plan, even when it’s hard to see. This challenging period is refining you both. When you reunite, you’ll appreciate the growth. For now, focus on loving yourself and finding peace within.
These powerful connections can make us do crazy things, so take a breath and examine your emotions before doing anything else.
I'd be careful about making any big moves without having an honest conversation with this person first. And remember, they have their own life and commitments too. It might not be as simple as you're imagining.
Many authentic twin flames meet while married - this is actually quite common since the connection often activates when we’re established in life.
However, true twin flame energy elevates us to be more ethical and conscious, not less.
Exactly.
Love alone isn’t enough to justify causing harm to others. Twin flame connections invite us to grow spiritually and become better people, not to abandon our responsibilities or ethical principles.
I saw my children’s faces, and it felt like guilt was a lead blanket, and I remember the vows I spoke as I teetered on the edge of something irreversible that could shatter his and my worlds. I was frozen and unable to move forward or backward but eventually I made the right decision for them and for me.
The journey is not always easy but is always worth it.