The "Let them" theory. Do you think it could also work for a twin flame?

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Hey guys,
Have any of you heard of the “let them” theory? Or read Mel Robbin’s book " The Let them theory " or listen to her podcast?

I read her book a few months ago and all though I loved it and started to apply the practices in my every day life, I rolled my eyes a bit when she got to her section of her book regarding the “Let them” theory when it pretains to getting over someone. She said it takes about 3 months to get over or move on from someone. Avoid their socials so you dont look at them. Dont look at their photos or things that remind you of them, I think she said for a minium of 11 weeks or something.

I rolled my eyes, because I felt sure, those rules would apply just fine to a normal relationship. We can, and we all have the ability to get over “normal” relationships. But when you share a soul with someone, feel their energy and mood shifts daily, they constantly show up in your thoughts or dreams constantly. How on earth could the “Let them” theory really help and apply to a twin?

I have been at an extreme low the past few weeks. As I have been feeling my twin more strongly. Synchronizations getting stronger etc.
I’ve gone to sleep crying only to wake up crying. I’ve just been struggling. Yesterday it got even lower because yesterday was the 22 year anniversary of my mom’s death. So I was really struggling yesterday. Like dont ask me how I am or I will just burst into tears. Thats how low I felt. I woke up crying yesterday and sent my twin a 13 min voice note begging him again for closure. Of course, it was met with more silence.

I felt sad still the first half of my day at work. Then by the end of the day, I felt a shift and just felt “done” done with this sad, longing, missing energy. I told myself, “girl, you got this. You can move on. What ever that looks like, you can do it!”
So I got home last night, showered and went to bed and woke up thinking about the “Let them” theory.

I am going to try. For 30 days, I am going to try and see if I can apply this to my journey. Actively everyday, try to apply the “let them” theory in regards to my twin.

I’ll be back to report how it went.

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First of all, I want to send you a huge hug. I ( as well as many others on this forum) can definitely empathize with what you are going through, @Cesadie37.

I have read the book, and can say that I’m still trying to “let them”. It’s such a rollercoaster ride; one day you’re feeling completely fine, and the next, the emotions hit you like a ton of bricks. The missing, the thoughts you sometimes cannot control, the questioning of your sanity.

I can’t speak for everyone. But I’ve had my share of relationships, and feel I’m quite apt at “getting over” someone after a heartbreak/disappointment. But my relationship with my TF is one that I have struggled with over the last year since we have been in separation. I don’t know if one ever “gets over” a TF since they are innately a part of you. But I guess the “let them” theory applies in the sense of not “chasing” but allowing things to happen as they should and will.

I lost my Dad in 2023, which is how my TF and I reunited in the first place. Grief is a funny thing, especially when one has suffered the lost of a parent. I hope today is better for you.

There are times during my journey when I have wondered if my inability to “let go” is due to my own ego and competitive nature. If I just didn’t want to “lose”. I also have tried asking my TF for closure, but as you have experienced, I was also met with silence. For the longest time I have felt that if he truly wanted to move on, or if this connection wasn’t as strong for him as it was for me, that he would at least have the courage to say goodbye or end things properly. But until today, I haven’t spoken to him since Christmas, and I still am unsure as to why we have completely stopped speaking. I question if it is the lack of closure that is making it unable for me to move on

I just want to say that: You got this. And if you ever need a listening ear, please don’t hesitate to send me a private message. I would love to hear how you go with your “let them” theory and if it changes anything for you.

Hugs.

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Thank you so much. I messaged you. :heart:

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I think everybody approach to handle separation always different, because of the journey itself that albeit similar, but also different for every individual. For my first separation, we could say that I chase until I drop. For almost a year I do meditation, healing, grounding, energy alignment to heal myself from any trauma that I have, so that my TF come back. He did come back for a few months :sweat_smile:.

The second separation, it’s already 9 months now, after he broke it up with me again, like what you feel right now, I’m done, I need to give a respect for myself, not like the first one, this second separation I don’t even try to contact him, don’t even take a peep on his status update, don’t even talk about him.

We know when we talk about a TF Journey, we’ll always talk about 5D and 3D aspect. When I talk to my spiritual teacher 2 weeks ago, he said that even though in the surface we’re not together anymore, but within, please mind it that my spiritual teacher use his own term, within we both still in one vessel. Well, I think that in line with the TF concept, that both the DF and DM coming from one soul that split into two bodies, or despite the separation we’re still connected with the cord and the connection never break. Well, that’s 5D aspect.

If we talk about the 3D aspect, that is our day to day life, it’s a fact that right now the relationship is broken, our TF choose to leave, he gone silent, he ghosted us, he avoid any conversation about our relationship, the worse? Maybe he jump into other relationship. So, I think we need to treat it as 3D relationship too. To see it as it is.

If you want to apply that “Let Them Theory” just go with it, the soul connection will stay intact, but we could mindfully handle the up and down of the energy shifting. Do what feel good to you and prioritize yourself more.

Cosmically, this past two weeks truly hard on TF, everything that hurting us being laid bare, so that we can release it for good. It physically and emotionally influence us in a bad or a good way.

So, give a pat on yourself. You already done well. It’s okay to feel sad and disappointed, we are human after all. Stay strong.
:hugs::hugs:

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