God….my TF journey has taught me so much, it’s hard to list. Unfortunately, pain was necessary to learn all of this. What a lovely system you’ve created, Divine (jk…don’t punish me, Divine
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I learned about delving into the pain, and discovering what’s there, and how to heal it (as its inescapable with TF!)
I discovered my true boundaries (vs ones made by ego, or giving too much)
I discovered I deserve someone I don’t have to chase, but comes to me when he chooses. (If they don’t love me enough to come forward, maybe they didn’t love me at all)
I discovered many tiny ways I was trying to control the situation and why (fear of abandonment)
I learned I can love someone, even if they are not with me (Unconditional Love)
I learned a lot about myself concerning sex/intimacy, as we have a strong telepathic link, and I’m more traumatized in this area than I ever knew. (You push that $#!% so far down you forget its there, acting like a secret puppeteer)
I discovered the many many many many many (oh, man… MANY) mistakes I’ve made, without realizing it. (Blind as a newborn bat)
I’ve learned how to have compassion for myself and said many mistakes
(did the best with what I had/knew at the time, and usually intended good)
I learned to love myself, and that I deserve love (I would say everyone else deserves love, so why not me?)
There’s more… but in 18months, I’ve learned more than the 40 years before it put together
And my TF has no clue it was him that helped me do it. SO painful. But it’s like giving birth; Incredible pain at first, then a lifetime of enjoying the results.
Now I hate-welcome each new issue that arises, and try to jump into learning 