Maybe focusing on grounding meditation practice will help find more balance between the 3D and 5D experiences. Perhaps try setting an intention before bed to connect only in ways that serve your highest good.
Your inner peace and self-respect are most important, so trust your intuition about healthy boundaries even with metaphysical experiences.
Maybe the 5D activites are meant to help you both heal and align your energies, even if he’s not ready to fully embrace it in the physical world yet.
Well he does not want you 2000 miles away that we know for sure.
Maybe just relax and enjoy it. See where it brings you.
I once sent this song directly to my TF 
These words really captured the essence.
When I encountered a similar psychic link, I envisioned a sturdy oak tree growing within my soul, its roots anchoring my core and its branches shielding my inner world. This living barrier allowed me to weather the storm of shared consciousness while still basking in the warm sunlight of our connection.
I think I did something similar. We are physically separated as well.
10 days or so ago, I was lying in bed and felt as though he was there with me. Then I felt this touch on my legs. I think I just ignored it and didn’t lean in, but there was definitely his presence.
Your soul is guiding this process. Rather than trying to set 3D boundaries, focus on maintaining balanced energy within yourself.
These intense experiences often emerge when you’ve begun truly balancing your energy. They’re not something to fight against or control - they’re showing you where more balance is needed.
i totally get what you’re saying about maintaining boundaries. it’s so hard when the 5d connection is that intense! but you’re right, we can’t let ourselves be treated poorly in 3d just because the energy feels amazing.
Figured I should update.
Much has happened, but I should report that the back and forth, push and pull when it comes to our telepathic intimacy has gotten more extreme.
Meaning, the situation is he still has his girlfriend, and still pursues me in 5D for intimacy. When I try to tell him (via our ‘communication’’ method over Insta. He posts songs, I usually just straight talk to him over Insta Notes, having him as the only Close Friends so only he can see them) that the intimacy I give comes from a place of being a one-and-only, and that it hurts me badly to keep giving myself in that way when I’m not that to him, he usually responds callously and hurts me ( via songs “I have this girl and another”, “You have your nice things, I have mine”, “You’re the one, but in the meantime, I won’t say no to other pretty lips” 
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This makes me pull away and re-double my efforts to use my time and energy for myself and stop the intimacy. Which I’ll do for a few days until he either breaks through energetically (stronger in sacral chakra?) or he posts stuff about how it’s “just you and me’ “I love you alone”, “You’re the only one I want”, and other things that complement the energy coming with him where I can feel the authentic love for me from him. This draws me back in.
So it’s back and forth. Each time I pull away I’m more hurt, and stronger in leaving for longer. But each time I get pulled back, the intimacy between us is exponentially STRONGER. Now it feels very very REAL. More than it has been. Like I can feel my body respond as in real life, and sometimes I can feel him moving the blankets around me, or smell him, or feel his body heat. It’s INSANE. Intoxicating. My very soul and his are one and at peace. And in those moments I KNOW all is right.
But of course, the more real it is, the more it hurts later when it becomes clear he’s not going to let go of his girlfriend, talk to me, or treat me other than something he’s compartmentalized away as a ‘dream’. and so therefore I end up feeling taken advantage of, and uncared about, and leave again.
At this very moment, I feel him panicking a little (via pain in my throat, heart, solar plexus, and sacral chakras, which all go off when he’s REALLy upset) because I’ve been gone for about a week this time, but was divinely guided to be intimate last night, but today he can feel I’m dealing with the pain of his choices again to keep me out of his life except in 5D intimacy, and I know he realizes this means I want to leave again already.
Hopefully that all made sense.
So I’m so confused, still. I feel guided to stand up for myself as I haven’t my entire life. Set boundaries, use the time and energy I give to him for myself and getting my own life in order. This goes along with all TF teachings.
But my SOUL craves our intimacy, and eventually I feel guided to go back to being intimate. And around we go. It’s all driving me CRAZY.
So… any thoughts? Am I supposed to keep going around on this yo-yo rollercoaster of ecstasy and agony until all becomes clear? Or try harder to stand firm in what I need for myself? Which is to be a one-and-only when it comes to sexual intimacy? Or, what I fear, am I supposed to ‘heal’ the hurt that occurs by his choice of having another girl in his life and give myself intimately anyway, in hopes 5D will leave the way?
Another Update
I believe things finally reached a point of possible permanent, or at least for a long, separation.
After stopping intimacy again today another rude, critical, angry sounding song telling me ‘to walk’ stay away, amongst other things. Again, no idea what set him off, as I’m never out to insult or hurt him, but he tends to get angry/mean when triggered (via energy first, then song to follow).
I get the TF journey and where triggered behaviors come from. And it’s easy to see because much of it does seem like blatant projection. But his behavior still hurts me to the core, as I truly do love him unconditionally, and I hoped the incredible intimacy forced onto us would help him finally feel/believe the reality love between us, and feel motivated to do the inner work and painful self reflection so we could continue this journey TOGETHER.
This (and another “I’m going to keep my GF” song the other day), seem to have shut something important in my heart. Like maybe it’s gone too far finally, and I’ve entered a new level of surrender and acceptance that he is truly not going to choose me, and the reciprocal love I feel in the 5D will never come to reality. I also more and more have accepted I do not wish to be with someone who cares so little about my feelings, well being, and personal growth.
At least now it’s far, far easier to focus on myself and mute the sexual sensations coming from him. It just sucks because I CAN still feel it, so my life reality is going to be living feeling him having sex with others. It feels cruel for Divine to do this, after I’ve spent so long taking the TF inner work SERIOUSLY and tried to always do the right thing. But it does seem the TF path for the chaser/stayer is to be hurt so much you truly have no choice but to give up and walk away, because it’s the ONLY thing that seems to naturally mute the intense sexual energies.
I know things change constantly with TF, but for right now, I truly give up believing he’ll ever see the truth of our connection and what must be done. And I’m just so……SO…. Heartbroken and sad
Another update, because doing so keeps me sane.
Things are still the same in the sense I see no end so far to the current situation. We’re separated worse than we ever have been, energetically and otherwise. I have to feel him having sex with his GF constantly, which destroys me of course.
It’s not that I do not accept or respect his choice to keep his GF and not move towards me, it’s that he KNOWS I feel it and just doesn’t care at all about the pain I’m going through. I just cant fathom loving someone like this (which he indicates he does), and being able to turn a blind eye to hurting that person (and then judging and blaming that person…) That’s one reason I kept chasing for so long, I couldn’t accept it was possible to feel this and act the way he is. I trusted there had to be another explanation.
But now that I’m accepting it just is what it is, it’s like watching a train wreck in slow motion, energetically. The absolutely beautiful link and closeness that was built up with the telepathic intimacy is torn down each time I feel them together, or he continues to ignore me/get mean. It makes me beyond sad something of such pure love and beauty is tossed away, and there’s nothing I can do about it. I naturally want to find solutions and implement a fix, but I just cant accept giving myself intimately in this way only to feel him shunt me aside whenever his girlfriend comes over. He says he has needs in this area, which I can’t argue with, if that’s what he needs. But I just couldn’t keep giving my soul and heart in that way with zero respect for how sacred this energy is to me. I’ve only been with a couple people my entire life, the choice to be intimate is a major one for me, and this telepathic intimacy with him means more to me than anything other experience. Theres just no way I can accept the intimate karmic presence to keep it up with him And believe me, I’ve tried.
The saddest part is that I see and know his true self. Underneath the trauma behaviors, he is truly a beautiful person, and so freaking clever and talented it makes me so proud whenever he shows it. I miss him very much.
To anyone who reads these, thank you. Makes me feel less alone.