Some writings about twin flames say that you’re supposed to mirror each other and be similar, while others say we’re opposites like yin yang. Are we two sides of the same coin, or are we looking at each other in the mirror? I’m struggling to understand how we can be mirrors of each other while also filling in each other’s gaps.
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It’s definitely confusing, but given the varying beliefs and conflicting advice out there, I just wouldn’t worry about it too much.
In general… it’s both. (I know that’s not very useful but give me a sec).
You are both the same coin (to use your example), and you have a lot of things that are similar (or exactly the same). You also are the polar opposites that compliment each other.
See yourselves as a unit and it makes more sense.
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Twin flames are like two sides of a prism. They are similar at our core yet reflect different aspects of the same light, illuminating and balancing each other’s energy in beautiful and unexpected ways.
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I’m going to struggle to put this into words, but @Samnida and @Redpanda sum it up well.
Trying to see it as one or the other is like trying to phrase twin flames in a way that makes sense to a normal relationship. A square peg in a round hole.
You’ve hit on something key about the unit perspective.
Twin flames frequently share fundamental traits like integrity and compassion, but may express them through different strengths - one might be outwardly expressive while the other processes internally.
This creates natural balance and growth opportunities.
Both as @Redpanda said. Simultaneously mirror images and polar opposites.
We reflect each other’s profound truths while embodying the qualities we most need to develop.
It’s uncanny how much my twin flame and I align on certain things. We share the same tastes in food, laugh at the same jokes, and even gravitate to similar color palettes in our homes and wardrobes. Our music tastes the same, and our clothes are very alike.
Our life philosophies are so in sync it's like we're reading from the same playbook. But, we couldn't be more different in other parts of life. Our approaches to work, socializing, and handling stress are complete opposites. I am very extroverted, but he is more introverted.
But… it just works. It feels right. We work together.
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Our personalities are like mirror images—I’m an INFJ introvert, while my twin is an ENFJ extrovert. We’re cut from the same cloth but express it in completely different ways. That is the best way I can think to explain it.
Sometimes, it’s frustrating, but mostly, it’s beautiful how we balance each other out. It feels like another manifestation of the push pull between us.
It’s one of those surreal things. When my TF was around, I felt we were very opposite yet after many years of separation it’s now clear how very similar we were. The mirroring we had was insane but back then, was too complex and weird to try and begin to understand how and why we were pushing and pulling constantly. It was lack of communication really that caused the problems because we were both constantly having to guess at one anothers deepest thoughts and feelings and being young, we were evasive and clueless in spite of various jaw dropping signs how closely we were connected which wreaked fear rather than embracement.
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We vibe on music, humor, and core values, but our lifestyles are opposites. I'm all about my career, while he's more of a free spirit.
Personality-wise, I’m the outspoken, friendly type, always wearing my heart on my sleeve. He’s more reserved, often going with the flow to avoid rocking the boat.
Our relationship’s strange, but I wouldn’t change it. This experience has taught me much about myself and what I truly value.
Ngl, my TF and I are like carbon copies, lmao. Same values, humor, quirks - the whole package. We're both introverted AF and can finish each other's sentences like it's NBD. Heck, his fam even came from my country way back when. Twinning much? ?
But here’s the tea: we’re at different stages in some areas. Like, I’ve conquered my workaholic tendencies, but he’s still grinding 24/7. IMHO, I know that is his avoidant coping mechanism. We both struggled with self-confidence, but I leveled up first, and now he’s following suit. Slowly but I am proud of him for getting there.
We’re both dreamers, ya know? Wanting to make a diff in the world and all that jazz. But when we first met, he was all “I’ll be in the same spot in 10 years.” SMH. I could tell he was holding back his inner adventurer tho. He’d get so excited hearing about my crazy international shenanigans.
He used to hate traveling, but now he’s all about it. He even considered moving across the globe to be with me. Talk about a 180, right?
So yeah, we’re similar, but one of us is constantly pushing the other to level up and face the tough stuff.