I’ve always dreamt of having a nice and romantic Valentine’s Day, and never really had one, but this year will be extra hard. As far as I can tell, my TF seems to be happily ignoring me and living his life like I never existed, and since I seem to have a strong telepathic link with him, I get to feel he and his GF “together” too More fodder to create that lovely “Awakening pain” which helps me heal and pull away from him, and ease the pain, I guess, lol.
But yeah… not looking forward to that day.
Just wanted to offer hugs and support to anyone else who feels the same I think we should all do something extra nice for ourselves that day.
I’m feeling the same today. Last year he wished me Happy Valentines’ Day, but since we haven’t spoken since Christmas, I doubt I’ll get such a greeting this year. His birthday is also coming up so I’m struggling with whether I should let it pass in silence or wish him
I hear the pain in your words, and I want you to know you’re not alone in feeling this way.
Your idea about doing something nice for yourself on Valentine’s Day is spot on. This isn’t just about distraction - it’s about showing yourself the love and care that you deserve. Self-love isn’t a consolation prize; it’s actually a powerful way to raise your vibration and heal.
It’s a special kind of heartache to sense your twin with someone else - I’m so sorry you’re going through that.
I really like your perspective about doing something nice for yourself that day. It’s such a healthy response to a challenging situation. You’re absolutely right that it’s a day we should focus on taking care of ourselves.
Sending you a big virtual hug. This phase is so painful, but you’re handling it with such grace and wisdom. And thank you for thinking of others who might be struggling too - that kind of compassion even in your own pain shows what a beautiful soul you are.
It makes me so sad to think even one more person is going through this kind of pain, and yet so many are. I’d send each of them a Valentine if I could
Definitely going to do something nice for myself. I’m a gamer who never has time to play games, so maybe I’ll play something while eating chocolates (and pinching them open to see which ones they are like Lucille Ball, bc I hate the coconut, lol).
I thought I saw something in the collective newsletter from last year, so I went back to find it:
I know what date it is today. I suspect some of you might maybe feel the pressure of separation today more than usual. And I don’t blame you for that.
But we’re not fans of letting external pressure affect your journey.
The twin flame path is very different from a ‘normal’ relationship. You are connected in a way that most people can’t understand, but that also means you have a relationship that most people can’t understand.
It rarely follows convention, and today’s case is no different. See that for the blessing that it is.
This kind of advice is always easier to say of course, but maybe someone can find some comfort in it.
Some TF couples will probably spend today doing something special, but (much like the thread we have on marrying your TF) I think it’s specific to each couple.
My twin and I see it as a commercial holiday. There is no judgment on anyone who celebrates it, and I understand how seeing all the stuff in the shops and media, etc… won’t help but, for what it’s worth, even some TFs who are together will be treating it as just another day.
In fact, I think we’re even traveling that day so forget romance, it’ll probably be last minute packing and trying not to be late for the flight.
That raw ache when your twin flame seems completely detached while you’re still processing everything - it hits differently around Valentine’s Day.
It feels like such a unique kind of heartbreak. Those moments of feeling their intimacy with another person cut straight to the core.
Your suggestion to treat ourselves with extra kindness that day reflects such emotional intelligence. When we’re carrying this specific type of pain, finding ways to be gentle with ourselves becomes so, so important.
I appreciate you reaching out to support others who might be struggling with similar feelings during this holiday. There’s something healing about acknowledging we’re not alone in navigating these complex emotions.
Sending warmth and understanding your way. Sometimes just having our experience validated, especially around charged occasions like Valentine’s Day, can provide a small measure of comfort.
Valentine’s Day was ruined for me many years ago when my husband, at that time, announced he was divorcing me in the middle of the restaurant, infront of our 6 year old son.
I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day because of that. But I don’t ruin it for anyone. I am currently single and in separation from my twin. Im just going to stay busy doing something for myself.
Wow that is terrible you experienced that, I’m so sorry! And right in front of your son as well…
Maybe loving yourself extra well on this day can help take V-Day back from negative memories and re-own it into something new and wonderful of your own making.
Thanks for digging that out! Totally get the thing about not letting external pressures having influence and for each individual having their own way of seeing the day.
For me I embrace Holidays as opportunities to show love and appreciation to people we care about (I usually use any excuse to do so, but holidays have always been extra special to me). I enjoy the kitchsy-ness of each occasion, so seeing all the cupids and rose-petals make me happy, lol.
I think I’m in big part upset I can’t show love and celebrate our incredible connection together on this day. The fact he’s giving attention to a GF while ignoring me feels like a door slam in the face of all I wish to share. So I’ll share it with myself, but…I still crave making him extra special too.
For any interested, I was completely, pleasantly surprised yesterday. We’ve been reaching new levels of 5D intimacy every day. Beyond incredible, but I became more tensed and stressed all Valentine’s Day, believing I’d have to stop that incredible intimacy for good if I felt he and his GF.
But… the feeling of “them” never came. Then last night we had an incredibly romantic 5D experience. The best ever. He also posted V-Day songs that could have applied to me, just wish I could trust they were. I’m so happy, thanking my lucky stars to have experienced that with him on such a lovely day and now just feel…content.
I just want to relax into the feeling and look forward to being so connected in 5D again, but my heart’s still tight that maybe the GF (if they’re still togehter?) just couldn’t come over last week and I still need to keep my heart guarded (which sucks bc it interferes with the 5D)
But despite that, it ended up being a very nice (and chocolate-filled) Valentine’s Day
You know that song that goes, “Love hurts, love scars, love wounds, and mars”? It makes me think about how my heart aches when I remember what you went through that day in the restaurant with your young son present. Certain moments are like timestamps in our minds, forever changing how we view things going forward.
But I love how you are reclaiming your power by focusing on self-care that day instead of letting those memories control you. There’s something so healing about consciously choosing to pour love into ourselves, especially on days that once held pain. It’s as if you’re writing a whole new story, one where you are the main character choosing joy over past hurts.
Last Valentine’s Day, I binged on every action movie I could find. Nothing says self-love, like watching things explode while eating an entire heart-shaped box of chocolates by yourself!
This year, I’m planning a ‘Singles Superhero Marathon’ complete with a cape and mask because if we feel like we have a secret double life with this twin flame stuff, we might as well embrace the superhero vibe.
I totally understand what you’re going through. I’ve been there too, and these special occasions like Valentine’s Day can hit hard during separation.
I kept telling myself that this journey isn’t about the physical relationship or what others might think - it’s really about reconnecting with our own soul. When I feel those intense energies during holidays (and trust me, I still do), I try to remember that it’s an opportunity to go deeper within myself rather than focusing on what my twin flame is or isn’t doing.
Something that’s helped me is treating Valentine’s Day as a chance for self-love and nurturing. Instead of getting caught up in the external stuff, I use it as a time to work on my own energy and inner balance. It’s not always easy, but it’s been transformative for me.
Just know you’re not alone in this - we support each other through these challenging times. Sending you lots of love and strength. This community understands precisely what you’re going through, and we’re here for you.
Feeling this deeply on V-day I started a new tradition of writing myself a love letter and burning it at midnight under the full moon, which helped transform that painful telepathic awareness into something more sacred and personal for me.
More fodder to create that lovely “Awakening pain” which helps me heal and pull away from him, and ease the pain, I guess, lol.
I think we should all do something extra nice for ourselves that day.
He also posted V-Day songs that could have applied to me, just wish I could trust they were. I’m so happy, thanking my lucky stars to have experienced that with him on such a lovely day and now just feel…content. 
