I keep hearing about this idea of the dark night of the soul (DNOTS?) and twin flames always going through it. I tried to do some reading, but it seems confusing and conflicting, and I can’t tell if I’m going through it or not.
I’ve been through periods of intense despair and questioning everything, which I now recognize as my ‘dark night of the soul.’ I think. I was full of pain and doubt, but I came out on the other side feeling better and more open to many things (including my journey).
Do all twin flames go through DNOTS? What do you look for?
The DNOTS is a profound period of spiritual transformation that many (not all) twin flames see for themselves.
It’s characterized by intense questioning of beliefs, values, and your entire worldview. This often happens when old patterns and beliefs are being cleared to make way for deeper spiritual understanding.
Common signs you may be experiencing DNOTS:
Deep feelings of emptiness or loss of meaning
Questioning everything you thought you knew
Feeling disconnected from your usual support systems
Intense emotional pain that seems to have no clear cause
A sense that your old life/identity is falling away
It’s normal but it’s not a required “stage”.
Each journey is unique. The DNOTS often comes when your soul is ready for a major shift in consciousness. The depth and length varies greatly between individuals.
TBH, the DNOTS for twin flames hit me like a truck LOL. It felt like my world was crumbling, but looking back, it was the universe’s way of forcing me to level up and face my deepest fears. IMHO, not everyone experiences it the same way, but if you’re feeling lost, questioning everything, and struggling to love yourself - congrats, you might be in the thick of it!
The dark night of the soul for twin flames is like a spiritual detox, clearing out old energies and beliefs that no longer serve us.
During this time, my root and heart chakras felt very blocked, causing intense feelings of fear and heartache. Meditation and energy work helped me navigate through the darkness, gradually opening my chakras and allowing new, higher vibrations to flow in. While it was challenging, I emerged feeling more aligned with my true self and ultimately closer to my twin flame connection.
Just my two cents, but I think the DNOTS is like a spiritual boot camp for twin flames. From what I’ve seen, it’s not a walk in the park, but it’s not mandatory either. In my humble opinion, it’s more like a cosmic wake-up call when you’re ready for it. I’ve noticed that when folks go through this, they often feel like they’re losing their marbles.
One thing I’ve learned is that it’s different for everyone. Some might feel like they’re drowning in emotions, while others might feel numb. Either way, it’s all part of the process, if you ask me. My advice? If you’re in it, hang in there. If you’re not, don’t go looking for trouble. The DNOTS will find you when you’re ready, whether you like it or not.
While I’ve experienced intense periods of doubt and despair, I’m not sure they were necessarily a ‘dark night of the soul’ for my twin flame journey specifically.
These challenging times were more about personal growth and self-reflection rather than something unique to just twin flames. I think it’s important not to attribute every difficult emotional experience to the twin flame journey, as doing so might prevent us from addressing other important aspects of our lives and personal development.
The dark night of the soul felt like an intense period of questioning everything I thought I knew about myself and my connection. It was painful and confusing, but I think it really helped me further things. While I can’t say if all twin flames go through this, I believe it’s a common part of the process that pushes us to confront our fears and insecurities.
Maybe without it nothing ever changes from a never-ending separation stage.
(Oh boy, the dark night of the soul - what an experience!) It felt like being torn apart and rebuilt from the inside out, questioning everything I thought I knew about myself and my connection (talk about an identity crisis).
Looking back, I’d say the key signs were intense emotional pain, spiritual emptiness, and a deep urge to just give up on the whole twin flame thing - but somehow, I made it through and came out feeling weirdly lighter and more aligned (go figure).
‘The night is darkest just before the dawn’ as Batman says in The Dark Knight and yeah that’s how it feels with the dark night of the soul for twin flames it’s like you’re drowning in this ocean of pain and doubt and everything you thought you knew is crumbling but then suddenly there’s this tiny spark of light and you realize you’re stronger than you ever knew and it’s not about finding someone else it’s about finding yourself
I think maybe this is different for everyone. Some might literally have it in a night but for me it was like an awakening that went on for weeks. Maybe we even have multiple of them.
Oh my goodness, this resonates so deeply with my own journey!
My soul was being wrung out like a sponge, leaving me feeling lost and confused. One thing I’d add is that self-care becomes absolutely crucial during this time. Meditation, journaling, and connecting with nature were my lifelines. They helped me navigate the stormy seas of my emotions and eventually led me to calmer waters.
While the twin flame journey can be challenging, facing it together with openness and vulnerability allowed us to develop a profound connection that felt familiar yet entirely new, as if we were remembering each other from a past life.
Hey everyone, I totally get where you’re all coming from! My twin flame experience hit me like a ton of bricks. We had this amazing few weeks together, just vibing and connecting on a whole other level. When he left, I was all ‘no biggie, see ya soon!’ but man, once that plane took off, it was like someone flipped a switch. Suddenly I’m freaking out, heart racing, feeling his energy even though he’s gone. It was wild how fast it went from blissful to panic mode. Does anyone else get that intense mix of emotions? It’s like your body knows something your mind hasn’t caught up to yet. Still figuring it all out, but whew, what an experience!
Here’s a friendly tip for those dark nights of the soul: Lace up those running shoes and hit the pavement! Turn your turmoil into a personal marathon. As you pound the ground, let each step be a beat in the rhythm of your emotional release. Challenge yourself to run just a little farther each time, and you might find your mind clearing along with your muscles.
It’s been 5 years and my body and soul know what’s true but my mind constantly tries to explain it away or justify. I had to learn to move through the self-doubt mental waves.