I’ve stopped chasing my twin flame and it feels liberating. The constant push and pull was exhausting, and I needed to focus on myself. Now I wonder if he’ll start pursuing me or if we’ll both just exist separately for a while. Part of me hopes he’ll reach out, but I’m also scared of falling back into old patterns. Has anyone else experienced this shift in dynamics?
I know I’ve heard the dynamic shifts and you can both swap between running/chasing but I don’t know how I’m supposed to know when it happens and if it’s likely to swap back again.
Let me address the running/chasing dynamic based on the twin flame teachings. The key insight here is that this isn’t actually about chasing or running - those are surface manifestations of deeper energy patterns. What’s really happening is a push-pull energy dynamic between twin flames.
When you feel like you’re “chasing,” your push energy is feeding outward. When you feel like you’re “running,” that’s pull energy activating. Neither position is better or worse - they’re expressions of the same underlying fear-based energy that must be balanced.
The shift you’re experiencing isn’t so much about switching roles as it is about starting to balance that push-pull energy. Feeling “liberated” from chasing suggests you’re beginning to settle that push energy rather than feeding it. This is exactly what needs to happen for genuine union.
The concern about “falling back into old patterns” is very perceptive. Focus on balancing your energy rather than monitoring what your twin flame is doing. Their apparent running or chasing is irrelevant - it’s all about your internal balance.
When I stopped chasing, I finally faced my own fears and insecurities.
‘The only way out is through.’
It was scary at first, but focusing on myself brought a sense of peace I hadn’t felt before. While part of me still hopes he’ll reach out, I’m learning to trust the process and find fulfillment within, regardless of what happens with our connection.
One step forward, two steps back, and a whole lot of spinning in circles. I love how we’re talking about ‘push-pull energy’ like we’re discussing quantum physics. Next thing you know, we’ll be using string theory to explain why your twin flame ghosted you on Instagram.
But you’re right I do think it’s all about balance here.
OMG, I totally get where you’re coming from! I’ve been there too, and let me tell you, the moment I stopped chasing and focused on loving myself, my twin flame suddenly couldn’t stay away - it’s like the universe changed everything and now he’s the one texting me constantly!
oh wow I totally get where youre coming from its like that Katy Perry song hot n cold you change your mind like a girl changes clothes one minute youre the chaser next youre the runner and its all so confusing and exhausting but I think the key is to just focus on yourself and your own growth and let things unfold naturally without trying to control or predict whats gonna happen next cause the more you try to force it the more it slips away ya know
The chaser’s heart chakra tends to be overactive, desperately reaching out, while the runner’s is often closed off, creating an energetic imbalance. This push-pull dynamic can be seen in the auras, too - the chaser’s aura extends towards the runner while the runner contracts.
True healing begins when we shift our focus inward. Instead of fixating on our twin’s actions, we must examine our energy centers. Are we nurturing our root chakra for stability? Is our solar plexus balanced, allowing for healthy boundaries?
The dynamic with our twin naturally shifts as we align our energies. The chasing stops not because we force it but because our aura no longer seeks completion from another. We create space for both parties to heal independently, allowing the connection to evolve organically.
Remember, this journey is ultimately about self-discovery and growth. By tending to our energy field, we create the conditions for authentic union - whether with our twin or ourselves.
I think some of us swap back and forth pretty often and others might never swap at all. Don’t place too many expectations or rules on where you are, just keep doing the work.
Look at it as balanced and unbalanced energy, not running and chasing. Keep yourself balanced and they’ll do the same.
When I finally stopped chasing and obsessing over the connection, that’s when things started to shift. I focused on nurturing my own feminine energy - being more present, trusting my intuition, and opening myself to receive. It wasn’t about playing games but about truly embodying those qualities.
As I embraced this softer side of myself, I noticed my twin stepping up more. He became more decisive and took the initiative in our interactions. It was like a natural interplay - the more I allowed myself to be vulnerable and receptive, the more he felt called to step into his strength.
This doesn’t mean losing yourself or your independence. For me, it was about finding balance and allowing both of us to express different aspects of ourselves. Some days, I still struggle with letting go of control, but I’ve found so much growth in exploring this feminine energy. It’s opened up new dimensions in our connection, which I never expected.
The push-pull dynamic between twin flames often stems from deep-seated fears and unresolved traumas. While we might label it as running or chasing, it’s really about our inner struggles manifesting in our connections.
When I feel the urge to pull away, it’s usually because I’m confronting parts of myself I’m not ready to face. The mirror effect is intense - seeing your own insecurities reflected back at you can be overwhelming. But it’s in those moments of vulnerability that real growth happens.
Learning to sit with the discomfort, to trust the process, and to open up despite the fear - that’s where the magic lies. It’s not always about grand spiritual revelations; sometimes, it’s as simple as learning to communicate honestly or showing up consistently for your partner and yourself.
