Hey, I totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve been there too, feeling like the pain would never end. But honestly, letting go was the best thing I ever did for myself. It’s not easy, but focusing on your own growth and happiness is so worth it.
You’ve got this, and remember - you deserve someone who chooses you every day.
I have someone that chooses me everyday. I just didn’t want the link to this person anymore. Thank you.
Idk why this mutual friend did this. She knows I rather not hear any thing about him since he refuses to talk to me or be my friend at the very least anymore.
Just as I was starting to have a few days of some semblance of peace and was focusing on balance and acceptance. This mutual friend that I met through my twin… she randomly text me last night. She knows how much i miss him by the way. So idk why she told me.
My twins wife is pregnant with their 7th child. 
. When i tell you I went numb so fast! No crying. No anger. No pain. I just thought … “Wow. You’re dumb. Congrats. But you’re dumb.” He didnt want anymore kids. They were struggling as it is. I got a strong sense that this is some last ditch effort to salvage something. Like a bandaid on a struggling marriage. A try hard attempt. Distraction. Idk. Im just impressed how much i actually do not care. I’m impressed with myself and in that moment its like I let go.
. I ripped my energy back and i felt a shift. I felt uneasy emotions coming from him. And i thought, "no! Stay away from me. "
It gave me clarify too. The last two dreams that were vivid with us, the first one my husband and I were at his house. I was sitting on the couch. Me in the middle, im leaning as close to my husband as i can. My twin is trying to talk to me and rub my back as comfort but i wont look at him. I dont want him to talk to me or touch me so im scooting as close as i possibly can to my husband. This dream was during the 3 week period recently when i had managed to feel like me for a bit cause i was focusing on acceptance of this journey instead of fighting it. I was going solid hours without him on my mind. No crying. Finding it easier to be present with my husband. 3 weeks of peace. Then i had that dream. There was a shift. Then i was back to crying a few days later.
Then the beginning of this week,either the day before or after i told you about him changing his fb profile picture to a photo of them. Mind you he hasnt had a photo of the two of them in like a year. But whatever man. Do you. And i told you it triggered me and i cried in the car at the gym. And i was pissed cause why do i care? Anyway, that night or night before I had a dream he was trying to talk to me but she was walking towards us so he went quiet. Then in the next scene of the dream they are walking side by side towards me together. Then i woke up.
So now i learn this, and the dreams ive had recently make a bit more sense.
But anyway… as of now… i feel nothing. Maybe this was just what i needed to “let go.” We shall see. Im just surprised, how well im handeling it at the moment. Ive been watching “The truth within” or Sym is her name. Shes on youtube. Her videos cut through the bs and are resonating & helping me on this journey. So overall, im seeing progress in how im feeling ya know?
Im sorry your husband was unwilling to see and be supportive for you. Thats awful. Im so sorry, Love. I hope you know you are NOT crazy. You are not delusional. You have worth. And your truth. You matter. And deserve to be listened and believed and supported. Im here for you. I got you. 
. I hope in your real life you also have ppl you can turn to cause yes he sounds abusive. I hope you don’t have to tolerate it much longer. Hugs love . Im here for you.
Yes i agree. Thank you.
Oh dear…Sounds like someone still needs to learn the value of setting and maintaining firm boundaries. Both with themselvs and with others.
Forget discipline, and trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Lets just eat cake until we die of diabetes, am I right? 
Now, I’m not saying they should move to Mount Athos and live a life of celebacy (which I do for a few weeks, and do suggest more men visit this special place) but perhaps they should give some thought and consideration to the potential consequences of their actions?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m never against people procreating, but the truth (like you said), is that having children with someone does not automatically improve your relationship with them.
If there have been trust and communication issues in the past, then those issues are not going to just dissapear or go away. If anything, they’re going to be brought forward even more.
Good on you for emotionally disconnecting from them the way you did! 
If there’s one reoccuring theme I’ve noticed in this community, its that just because a strong spiritual connection exists between two people, it doesn’t necessarily mean the two of them would make a for a good romantic partnership.
Right?! I gotally agree.
I feel your pain so deeply. I’ve been there, sobbing on the floor, begging for it to stop, questioning if death was the only escape. But please know this intensity will pass, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.
The connection never truly goes away, but the raw agony does fade with time. For me, focusing on self-love and my own growth helped shift the energy from pain to purpose. It’s a journey, but you’re stronger than you realize.
I feel your pain deeply - the intensity of wanting to be free from the connection while still feeling its pull is one of the hardest parts of this process 
Absolutely. You said it.
I deeply resonate with your pain and the desire to break free from this intense connection. Fully accepting and integrating the lessons my twin brought into my life, rather than trying to erase them, has been the key to finding peace and reclaiming myself.
I understand your perspective - I’ve experienced that intense pain and desire for it to end too. What helped me was focusing on radical self-love and setting firm energetic boundaries.
Try visualizing cutting the cords between you daily, and pour that energy into nurturing yourself and your marriage instead. Remember, your healing journey is ultimately about you, not your twin.
I feel the same exact way…I am married with children too and met my twin three years ago. He is married with one daughter. We have been in separation for about 8 months and no contact for almost 2 months now. When we were talking it was great bc I felt like we found a good balance to be “friends” but now that we are in no contact it’s horrible. I feel like no matter how hard I try to move on and focus on me, I literally can’t escape the thoughts, dreams, seeing his doppelgänger everywhere, significant numbers, hearing his name…etc. it’s torture and I wish it would just stop. I sent him a message to reconnect but no response. I hate that he is ignoring me. It is heartbreaking and this is so hard. Before I met him, I was overall fine and “happy” in my marriage BUT after meeting my twin, it changed everything and shook my world. I am not the same and I can’t unfeel these feelings and make it stop. Whyyyy?? 
Intense cleansing of the heart chakra, combined with grounding exercises, can help ease the pain of separation.
When I went through something similar, visualizing cutting energetic cords while balancing my root chakra gave me some relief from the constant aching. You might try meditating on releasing attachments while focusing on harmonizing your aura - this helped me regain a sense of self separate from my twin.
Accepting the connection while focusing on your own growth and happiness tends to bring more peace than fighting against it.
Well, actually, what you’re describing sounds more like a false twin flame connection rather than a true twin flame journey. True twin flames don’t typically cause this level of ongoing pain and disruption to your existing relationships and life.
While separation can be challenging, it shouldn’t leave you feeling constantly miserable or suicidal - those are signs you may need to re-evaluate this connection and focus on healing yourself.
Yeah no it isnt. Ive experienced too many things for it to be false. No two twin flame journeys are the same either. Youtuber “twin flame truth within” or whatever her name is expresses the same exact emotions I have experienced. While i absolutely wish it was false, too much has happened, spiritual awakening, kundalini stages etc for it to not be a twin. A limerace or a false wouldn’t be plaguing me for as long as this has gone on either.
Im not going to sit here and name off all the things . I dont need to validate myself to anyone either.
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This has been the only thing that helps me stay grounded. The accepting and learning to balance. I have felt a bit more “like me” and “let go” whatever that looks like on this journey. The obsessive thoughts have stopped. He still pops up in my head. Or i still feel his emotions and him following me around energetically sometimes, But im still mad right now so i tell him to go away. He keeps showing up in all my dreams. Trying to come forward, or tell me something before hia wife stops him, or they are both coming forward, or both coming to my house to tell me something, or hes trying to bring me flowers and say sorry, or find any excuse to show up at my house. Last night the dream was he was coming to my house to ask to borrow a paper clip. My husband told him i wasnt home. Then i woke up. I use to never have his wife in my dreams. But since before our mutual friend told me they are having their 7th baby, shes been in my dreams. A day before our mutual friend text me and told me, i had a dream he was running to tell me something but got quiet as his wife appeared. Then i woke up, fell back to sleep and then they walked towards me together. Then i woke up. Then our mutual friend text me that evening. Then i went numb and been detached and disconnected ever sense. I take note of the dreams and him poppong in my head but dont fight it. Just do my best to ignore it and i have been feeling a bit “better” whatever that looks like. Im still a former shell of myself these days. But i have been able to be more present in my own life and with my husband and kids so thats a plus. I have also smoked less. I let myself feel the pain of learning hes expecting another baby hurt . I fought it off for days and then fell apart and sobbed for awhile and since then ive been fine. It pisses me off that it bothers me at all. Cause i dont want him. I want my husband. I dont know what it means that i needed to cry over it. Maybe because this lifetime we aren’t finding our way back to eachother even as friends again. Idk. But im ok. Thank you for the advice.
Ever considered tackling your healing through physical movement? Our bodies often cling to unresolved emotions and trauma that our minds struggle to process.
Maybe try yoga, tai chi, or somatic experiencing therapy? These hands-on practices can help you physically release pent-up feelings and emotions. By actively engaging in these techniques, you might find yourself experiencing a newfound sense of emotional and physical liberation. It’s about putting theory into practice and taking tangible steps towards your well-being.
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