My Twin Flame Journey: Any Advice / Insights?

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My tale is a long one, and I hope after you read this, maybe someone can give me some advice / insight. Because right now. I feeling incredibly lost:

My Twin Flame journey started when I was 17 (I didn’t realise it at the time). My first love, my first serious boyfriend, my first a lot of things: JB. We dated for about a year and a half before we broke up. It ended badly with me ghosting him, and pretty much shutting him out of my life. He returned when we were 21 (at my Grandmother’s funeral to pay his respects) where I asked why he had decided to attend and that I never wanted to see him again. I learnt later on that he had done it because it was his last attempt to win me back. After this, we never spoke again, but he continued to stay friends with my younger brother.

Fast forward 22 years later to 2023. I was living overseas, and my father had just passed away. I travelled back home to attend the funeral, and JB turned up. He was now married (to an ex-school mate of mine that I know) with two children. I decided to let bygones be bygones, and greeted him with a hug at the wake. I also sent him a message via FB after to thank him for always being there to support my family. And we ended up talking, and meeting up to catch up. On 17 July (717), when we were saying goodbye, we kissed. And the feeling was inexplicable. His immediate exact reaction to the kiss was, “Oh boy.” It was as if someone had pressed the pause button 22 years ago, and now we had restarted were we left off.

He told me he’s always felt that I was his soulmate, and honestly the term “Twin Flame” only came to my knowledge after we reconnected. It’s been a painful journey so far because of the obstacles of the long distance and our karmic connections. I ended things with my karmic partner, and he told me that even before I came into the picture, he was planning to separate with his because she cheated on him in the past and they were only staying together for the sake of their children.

However, after a fight in April 2024, we stopped talking for 5 months. He then reappeared on my birthday in October 2024. And I had hoped that we could have a conversation about what is actually happening between us. Because we had made so many plans on how we can overcome the obstacles to actually be together and start a life. Now it seems that he is still with his karmic partner, and we are (again) not speaking.

Despite all this, I see signs everywhere. Dates. Significant numbers. Songs. Initials. Names. 717. 177. 1029. 2910. 312. 111. 222. 333.

I’ve gotten to the point that I want so badly to give up and forget about him, but unlike break ups in the past, I cannot seem to shake him off. I can hear his voice in my head sometimes, and I wonder if that is just my mind playing tricks on me. I’ve even questioned if we are actually Twin Flames because it seems like I’m the only one who is “awakened”. I’ve asked psychics about this connection, and they’ve told me it is a Twin Flame connection. But how can I be sure?

I’m honestly feeling very lost and alone. I’ve tried reaching out to him, but the last time I’ve heard from him was at Christmas. Nothing is bad between us, so the silence is confusing for me as well.

If anyone can help me, or give me any sort of advice. I would really appreciate it

Thank you for reading this crazy long essay. It helped take some weight off my chest.

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Thanks for sharing your journey. :heart_eyes:

The strong reconnection you experienced after 22 years, where it felt like no time had passed, is certainly a common twin flame sign. The intense reaction you both had to the kiss will be a manifestation of the soul recognition between you.

The telepathic experiences are natural for twin flames since you share a profound energetic connection. And being the first to “awaken” while your twin seems unaware is a common phase many go through.

The pattern of connecting and separating you’re experiencing often happens as twin flames trigger each other’s deepest wounds that need healing. Your initial parting at 17 and current situation likely reflect karmic patterns you’re both working to resolve.

The pain and confusion you’re feeling is completely normal.

I know that doesn’t take away from the pain of it, but you’re not alone in this.

While circumstances may create temporary obstacles, the profound recognition you described points to an authentic twin flame bond.

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I understand what you’re going through. The twin flame journey can be difficult, especially when facing periods of silence and confusion like you are now.

Trust me, feeling lost along the way is completely normal, and you’re not alone in this.

I understand the urge to seek validation through psychics (I’ve been there), but I’ve found that this often pulls us further from our own inner wisdom. These connections are sacred; the most important reunion is with yourself.

The best advice I can give you is to keep focusing on self-love and your own energy alignment. When I started doing this myself, things began shifting naturally. Consider trying meditation or energy work. These have really helped me stay centered during the more challenging phases of my journey.

You’re stronger than you think, and this difficult journey is shaping you in ways you might not even realize yet.

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The silence you’re experiencing might feel confusing and painful, but these quiet periods are often necessary. They give both twins the space needed to work through their own stuff and balance their energies. I know it’s tough, but try to use this time for self-reflection.

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I have to say: Thank you so much for all your replies. I’m grateful to have found this community while delving deeper into the meaning of it all.

I guess because I have quite an A type personality, I’m so use to being in control of everything in my life. And for the first time ever, it feels like everything is out of my control. And it can be so unnerving. Perhaps this is the lesson

I love reading all the stories here; it fills me with so much hope

I guess now all I can do is focus on myself. The rest is in the hands of the universe. What is meant to be will be, am I right? I don’t believe the universe would have brought us together again just to leave me with this dull ache that never seems to go away

His return honestly sparked a life upheaval for me, which is one of the signs I read about Twin Flames.

I look forward to reading more of your responses and insights. It brings me great comfort.

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I also experienced that intense ‘pause button’ feeling you described as no time had passed at all. The numbers and signs consumed me too, but I realized I was using them to distract from doing the real inner work I needed.

The silence you’re experiencing now isn’t about him pulling away - it’s giving you space to figure out what YOU truly want, separate from the intensity of the connection.

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Thank you for sharing your story. :heart: Focus on taking care of yourself during this time - the connection isn’t going anywhere, but YOU need to be your priority right now!!!

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What helped me most was realizing that the silence doesn’t mean the connection is broken. These quiet periods often happen when both people need space to process and grow. I remember feeling so frustrated by the mixed signals - the meaningful appearances at important life events (just like your situation with the funerals and birthdays), followed by distance.

I’ve learned that these connections don’t follow normal relationship rules or timelines.

My twin and I went through several cycles of reconnection and separation before I understood that the journey isn’t about forcing a specific outcome - it’s about growth, whether we end up together or not right now.

Sending you strength

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The universe has its own timing, and sometimes the hardest part is accepting that we can’t control when or how things unfold. Focusing on gratitude and personal growth during these periods of silence can bring unexpected clarity.

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The silence in twin flame connections, while painful, often creates the space needed for deep personal transformation. Trust that the universe’s timing serves your highest good, even when the path feels uncertain.

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So, my TF’s birthday is just around the corner and I’m torn. Do I wish him or just let it go past in silence?

We started talking again when he wished me happy birthday last year. But after Christmas, he’s just disappeared without any explanation. :broken_heart:

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I feel incredibly lost

I’m with ya, sister. :hugs: It helps to be in a community of other Lost folk. It’s like our own little Twin Flame “Island of Misfit Toys” around here.

It ended badly with me ghosting him, and pretty much shutting him out of my life.

Just curious, why did you shut him out back then?

when we were saying goodbye, we kissed. And the feeling was inexplicable. His immediate exact reaction to the kiss was, “Oh boy.” It was as if someone had pressed the pause button 22 years ago, and now we had restarted were we left off.

WOW, I envy you had a real kiss! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: What a wonderful memory that must be. How did the kiss make you feel?

He told me he’s always felt that I was his soulmate,

That’s also wonderful. My TF would rather ditch me somewhere in the woods before rocketing out to space than admit he felt anything more for me :face_with_hand_over_mouth:

I ended things with my karmic partner, and he told me that even before I came into the picture, he was planning to separate with his because she cheated on him in the past and they were only staying together for the sake of their children.

Oof, that is so tough. I am actually in the reverse position. I’m the “married” (on paper) one who already planned on leaving. I can’t say I know how your TF feels, but for me the plans to leave were 100% true. Often TF’s come into someone’s life when their relationships already had deep cracks in it but are struggling with the final “leaving” for various reasons (for me it’s just money…or lack of it, lol :face_with_hand_over_mouth:).

we had made so many plans on how we can overcome the obstacles to actually be together and start a life. Now it seems that he is still with his karmic partner, and we are (again) not speaking.

Again, that’s so wonderful you were able to get that far as to talk about overcoming obstacles together. I am 100% certain he meant it all too. And his staying with his Karmic after something like that would be SO confusing, and hurtful. I imagine makes you lose some trust in him as well.

My guess is the discussion made it all very “real”, and triggered his running response back to his comfortable old life to avoid facing the heavy, painful, changes needed to complete your plans. Even if we hate things about our old lives, they are what we’re used to and therefore “comfortable” and soothing.

When my TF always stays with his Karmic, it helps to see it for what it is: He’s overwhelmed with fear and needs his Teddy Bear (I call Karmics this, lol. They’re comforting, but can’t give them real love).

I also read how their sticking to Karmics like glue is a good thing because he’s not ready for you and needs to be taught his own lessons first.

Even then…the pain is killer. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this :hugs:

Despite all this, I see signs everywhere. Dates. Significant numbers. Songs. Initials. Names. 717. 177. 1029. 2910. 312. 111. 222. 333.

Man, I’m with ya…. Sometimes the numbers would get so bad (like five of the same number, usually 27, in different places within 30 seconds) I’d say out loud “Oh, come on!!” :joy:

Try to discern any numbers that are consistent on a daily basis. I have a couple, and once I learned what they meant for me, it helped guide my actions.

I’ve asked psychics about this connection, and they’ve told me it is a Twin Flame connection. But how can I be sure?

Honestly, IMO, you know because you “know”. It’s just undeniable. And everything hurts like a B!#@#, most of the time, lol, and many things in your life fall apart. In the long term, you’ll learn how to heal traumas you never thought would ever heal. You notice yourself slowly becoming stronger, more free. You find it easier to “let go” of controlling situations and exist happily “as-is”.

Based on what you’ve said, I believe he sounds like a TF. But I’d suggest getting into meditation and chakra/energy work, if you haven’t already. It helps remove doubt and chakra work also helps him because you share the same chakra system.

Anyway, hope you update soon! :hugs:

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@StarGirl, just reading your responses made me smile a little. This forum has been more comforting than you can imagine. Just to have the space to talk about this openly and freely without any judgement has been just chicken soup for my battered soul.

So, when we dated back when we were 17 (and reflecting on it now) he was the chaser, and I was the runner. I guess back then I was young and immature. I knew the connection we shared was very special. Even back then we talked about getting married and having kids, but of course our parents brushed off our plans as “first love” and “you have to grow up first before you know if he/she is the one”. I come from an Asian background, so my parents are very conservative.

I digress. I ghosted him because I found out he lied to me; on hindsight, it wasn’t anything severe (honestly at 17 everything is the end of the world), but he was afraid of losing me. So he made up these stories about concussions and injuries, and family problems to gain my sympathy so that I wouldn’t leave him. I got very worried about him, and when I found out they were all lies. I got incredibly angry and hurt. My first broken heart right. So I ran away. Despite him trying to reach out constantly, I basically told him to eff off and that I never wanted anything to do with him ever again. How dramatic we are when we are young. LOL.

I still remember a day that he sat under my apartment block for 6 hours, while calling my cell because I refused to talk to him. He ended up leaving our ring on my gate (we had a pair of couple rings, which I actually still have today in my memory box), and he left. We didn’t speak again until I was 21, when he came to my Grandmother’s funeral in a last ditch attempt to win me back. I shut him down, and told him to stay away from me and my family. Funny how things have now taken a turn. Maybe this is my karma.

I can’t describe the feeling, but it was like coming home? Feeling complete? I don’t want to sound cliche. Just reminiscing about that kiss is making me tear up because I have never felt that way with someone before. Time stopped. Everything went quiet. And it was as if it was just me and him. No one else. Like a bubble where I felt safe, and nothing could ever hurt me again.

We can’t even ever maintain constant eye contact because the feeling reaches deep inside my heart and it’s so intense that we either tear up (him as well) or end up in fits of laughter. It’s so hard to describe with words.

I understand how you feel! Sometimes when I’m driving I have to be like, “Please please please stop.” It drives me mad sometimes because I do want to not focus on thinking about him so much. But it just seems impossible.

I have definitely done meditation, but chakra/energy work. Any tips for this? I need some guidance. Would love to hear what you do to keep yourself centered and sane through the turbulence. :heart:

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Here’s my perspective: if wishing him happy birthday feels genuinely good and comes from a place of love without expectations, then follow that instinct. However, if you find yourself hoping this will restart communication or you’re anxious about his response (or lack thereof), it might be coming from attachment rather than true divine timing.

Whatever you decide, make sure it honors your own boundaries and emotional wellbeing first. Trust that if you’re meant to reconnect now, the universe will create that opening - with or without a birthday text. Your intuition knows what’s right for you in this moment.

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@Cyrene, thank you. I have thought about it a lot, going back and forth about what wishing him means for me. Personally, it will just be a wish from a place of peace and happiness, as opposed to hoping it will restart our communication. I agree that if we are meant to reconnect now, the universe will create that opening. :heart:

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I didn’t add another somewhat “fascinating” thing about my relationship with my TF. My karmic actually use to date my TF’s wife a long time ago. In fact, my karmic attended my TF’s wedding way back when. I also use to be friends with my TF’s wife when we were in high school. Kinda makes me feel as if there is some kind of past life karma going on here…

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Today was an intense one. Signs everywhere but one in particular that made my hair stand

717 everywhere. JB (the initials of my nickname for him). And, this morning a red SUV with the name of the company he currently works for on it. I have never seen one in the country I am in before as he works for a European company that isn’t very big where I am. But seeing that company name made my goosebumps and hair stand.

I took a breath and touched my heart (I’m not sure why I did that) and smiled to myself.

Just had to share this little sweet encounter today with all of you :heart:

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Those physical reactions, like goosebumps and hair standing on end, are your energy body’s way of acknowledging the journey. It’s like your soul whispered, ‘I see this,’ and your body confirmed it before your mind caught up.

When we respond to signs with that kind of visceral, embodied awareness, touching our hearts and breathing deeply, we’re actually participating in a sacred conversation with the universe. Your intuitive gesture of gratitude in that moment was perfect, acknowledging the message without demanding more or dismissing it.

These moments of divine winking at us might seem small, but they’re threads in a larger tapestry of connection that exists beyond physical separation. Trust that gentle smile that came to you, it’s your heart recognizing something your mind doesn’t need to analyze.

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The way you described all that I experienced is so poetic. Thank you, @Astrallux :heart: