My Twin Flame Journey: Any Advice / Insights?

My tale is a long one, and I hope after you read this, maybe someone can give me some advice / insight. Because right now. I feeling incredibly lost:

My Twin Flame journey started when I was 17 (I didn’t realise it at the time). My first love, my first serious boyfriend, my first a lot of things: JB. We dated for about a year and a half before we broke up. It ended badly with me ghosting him, and pretty much shutting him out of my life. He returned when we were 21 (at my Grandmother’s funeral to pay his respects) where I asked why he had decided to attend and that I never wanted to see him again. I learnt later on that he had done it because it was his last attempt to win me back. After this, we never spoke again, but he continued to stay friends with my younger brother.

Fast forward 22 years later to 2023. I was living overseas, and my father had just passed away. I travelled back home to attend the funeral, and JB turned up. He was now married (to an ex-school mate of mine that I know) with two children. I decided to let bygones be bygones, and greeted him with a hug at the wake. I also sent him a message via FB after to thank him for always being there to support my family. And we ended up talking, and meeting up to catch up. On 17 July (717), when we were saying goodbye, we kissed. And the feeling was inexplicable. His immediate exact reaction to the kiss was, “Oh boy.” It was as if someone had pressed the pause button 22 years ago, and now we had restarted were we left off.

He told me he’s always felt that I was his soulmate, and honestly the term “Twin Flame” only came to my knowledge after we reconnected. It’s been a painful journey so far because of the obstacles of the long distance and our karmic connections. I ended things with my karmic partner, and he told me that even before I came into the picture, he was planning to separate with his because she cheated on him in the past and they were only staying together for the sake of their children.

However, after a fight in April 2024, we stopped talking for 5 months. He then reappeared on my birthday in October 2024. And I had hoped that we could have a conversation about what is actually happening between us. Because we had made so many plans on how we can overcome the obstacles to actually be together and start a life. Now it seems that he is still with his karmic partner, and we are (again) not speaking.

Despite all this, I see signs everywhere. Dates. Significant numbers. Songs. Initials. Names. 717. 177. 1029. 2910. 312. 111. 222. 333.

I’ve gotten to the point that I want so badly to give up and forget about him, but unlike break ups in the past, I cannot seem to shake him off. I can hear his voice in my head sometimes, and I wonder if that is just my mind playing tricks on me. I’ve even questioned if we are actually Twin Flames because it seems like I’m the only one who is “awakened”. I’ve asked psychics about this connection, and they’ve told me it is a Twin Flame connection. But how can I be sure?

I’m honestly feeling very lost and alone. I’ve tried reaching out to him, but the last time I’ve heard from him was at Christmas. Nothing is bad between us, so the silence is confusing for me as well.

If anyone can help me, or give me any sort of advice. I would really appreciate it

Thank you for reading this crazy long essay. It helped take some weight off my chest.

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Thanks for sharing your journey. :heart_eyes:

The strong reconnection you experienced after 22 years, where it felt like no time had passed, is certainly a common twin flame sign. The intense reaction you both had to the kiss will be a manifestation of the soul recognition between you.

The telepathic experiences are natural for twin flames since you share a profound energetic connection. And being the first to “awaken” while your twin seems unaware is a common phase many go through.

The pattern of connecting and separating you’re experiencing often happens as twin flames trigger each other’s deepest wounds that need healing. Your initial parting at 17 and current situation likely reflect karmic patterns you’re both working to resolve.

The pain and confusion you’re feeling is completely normal.

I know that doesn’t take away from the pain of it, but you’re not alone in this.

While circumstances may create temporary obstacles, the profound recognition you described points to an authentic twin flame bond.

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I understand what you’re going through. The twin flame journey can be difficult, especially when facing periods of silence and confusion like you are now.

Trust me, feeling lost along the way is completely normal, and you’re not alone in this.

I understand the urge to seek validation through psychics (I’ve been there), but I’ve found that this often pulls us further from our own inner wisdom. These connections are sacred; the most important reunion is with yourself.

The best advice I can give you is to keep focusing on self-love and your own energy alignment. When I started doing this myself, things began shifting naturally. Consider trying meditation or energy work. These have really helped me stay centered during the more challenging phases of my journey.

You’re stronger than you think, and this difficult journey is shaping you in ways you might not even realize yet.

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The silence you’re experiencing might feel confusing and painful, but these quiet periods are often necessary. They give both twins the space needed to work through their own stuff and balance their energies. I know it’s tough, but try to use this time for self-reflection.

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I have to say: Thank you so much for all your replies. I’m grateful to have found this community while delving deeper into the meaning of it all.

I guess because I have quite an A type personality, I’m so use to being in control of everything in my life. And for the first time ever, it feels like everything is out of my control. And it can be so unnerving. Perhaps this is the lesson

I love reading all the stories here; it fills me with so much hope

I guess now all I can do is focus on myself. The rest is in the hands of the universe. What is meant to be will be, am I right? I don’t believe the universe would have brought us together again just to leave me with this dull ache that never seems to go away

His return honestly sparked a life upheaval for me, which is one of the signs I read about Twin Flames.

I look forward to reading more of your responses and insights. It brings me great comfort.

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I also experienced that intense ‘pause button’ feeling you described as no time had passed at all. The numbers and signs consumed me too, but I realized I was using them to distract from doing the real inner work I needed.

The silence you’re experiencing now isn’t about him pulling away - it’s giving you space to figure out what YOU truly want, separate from the intensity of the connection.

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Thank you for sharing your story. :heart: Focus on taking care of yourself during this time - the connection isn’t going anywhere, but YOU need to be your priority right now!!!

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What helped me most was realizing that the silence doesn’t mean the connection is broken. These quiet periods often happen when both people need space to process and grow. I remember feeling so frustrated by the mixed signals - the meaningful appearances at important life events (just like your situation with the funerals and birthdays), followed by distance.

I’ve learned that these connections don’t follow normal relationship rules or timelines.

My twin and I went through several cycles of reconnection and separation before I understood that the journey isn’t about forcing a specific outcome - it’s about growth, whether we end up together or not right now.

Sending you strength

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