Hi Sarah 
In case @Redpanda is asleep (is this the first time I beat her to this?) you might want to see these:
But this is a good topic and deserves a reply, and maybe a better discussion (the staff can always merge the threads later if they want to).
I think you The intense emotions that can arise between twins - including what feels like hatred - often stem from the deep mirror effect of this connection.
It sounds like you probably know this already, but just for anyone else reading…
What you’re experiencing isn’t actually hatred in the conventional sense. We just don’t really have the language to explain it in a suitable way.
It’s more like an intense triggering of unresolved wounds, fears and shadows within both of you. Because twin flames share such an intimate energetic connection, these triggered emotions can feel overwhelmingly powerful.
When twins appear to “hate” each other, it’s usually because:
- They’re experiencing their own self-hatred reflected back at them through their twin
- Deep fears of intimacy and vulnerability are being activated
- Old wounds around love, trust and abandonment are surfacing
- Their ego is trying to protect them from perceived emotional threat
- Unresolved karma between the pair is coming up for healing
The anger you mentioned feeling is totally normal - it’s often your system’s way of processing and releasing old pain. The fact that you can still sense the underlying love beneath the surface shows you’re staying connected to the truth of your bond.
Some suggestions for working through these intense periods:
- Remember that extreme negative emotions are usually signs of deep healing taking place
- Focus on self-love and acceptance, as this helps transmute the triggered emotions
- When anger arises, try to sit with it and ask what it’s trying to tell you
- Consider that your twin’s apparent “hatred” may be their own pain and fear being projected
- Trust that these phases are temporary, even if they feel endless in the moment
You’re right that this reflects inner work that needs to be done. As you continue healing yourself, you’ll likely notice these extreme swings between love and “hate” begin to settle into a more balanced dynamic.
The intensity of emotion in twin flame connections can be overwhelming, but it’s a important purpose is bringing shadows into the light for healing. Stay focused on your own growth while holding space for your twin’s process too.