I keep reading that questioning your sanity is part of the TF journey for many people. Have you ever experienced this? And if so, what brought you back to believing all of this was real?
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I saw a little bit of your message before you changed it, and I wonāt re-share what you chose to remove, but my reply is partly based on some of what you said.
I think at least the majority of sensible members here would agree with me in saying: The reality is we donāt know.
Maybe thereās no such thing as twin flames. Maybe weāre entirely misreading something else.
Maybe there is such a thing and weāve completely misunderstood it.
Or maybe weāve got it right and itās just hard sometimes.
I think to claim we know any of this stuff for 
certainty is crazy in itself. There are patterns a lot of us see but thatās not proof.
The good news here is it doesnāt matter.
Take out all the fluff and buzzwords. Whether the connection is real or weāre all mad, the healthiest action for us is the same. Work on yourself. Be the best version of you. Do what you need to do to improve.
The rest will figure itself out, whether twin flames are real or not.
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I saw your original message @StarGirl and Iām glad you chose to remove some of the information that you did.
Let me assure you, that every one of us here has questioned our sanity at least once or twice since starting this journey.
Heck, experiencing the spiritual awakening that kicks it off, is a very jarring and profound experience for the vast majority of people. And not in a good way, because most are not ready for this level of higher consciousness.
You might question my sanity for saying this, but rest assured that doubt throughout the journey isnāt just normal and natural, its actually encouraged.
- How else can you trully define what is genuienly valuable to you, if you donāt question its role or purpose in your life?
- How else can you release what no longer serves your growth and evolution if you donāt doubt its importance?
Remember that you and only you are the one responsible for your happiness and wellbeing.
You canāt rely on anyone else for that. Not your twin, or your soulmate, or etc. The only person that knows you best, is you!
So choose yourself, choose to set and maintain healthy boudaries, and choose to not waste your time and energy on those who donāt respect them.
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I think I slept in and missed some of your post by the looks of things but, either way, you raise such a valid question that many twin flames face.
The intense and often supernatural experiences that come with this connection can definitely make us doubt our grip on reality.
Thatās a good thing. We should question this.
The telepathic connections, shared dreams, feeling their emotions from across the world, seeing 11:11 everywhere - these experiences go against everything weāve been taught is ānormalā or possible. Even a Hollywood movie doesnāt have these experiences.
So itās completely natural to question whether weāre making it all up or losing touch.
What helped me and many others was discovering that twins across different countries and cultures report the exact same phenomena without ever having met or talked to each other.
When you start noticing how many people are independently experiencing identical āimpossibleā things - the synchronized dreams, the physical sensations when apart, the ability to sense what theyāre feeling - it becomes clear something real is happening.
We have a whole community here of people seeing these same patterns. That said the advice youāve been given above is right. Donāt get hung up on the idea of black and white and true or false, just follow your journey to grow and protect yourself.
Whatever else happens, this is the way forward.
Another helpful perspective is recognizing that just because something falls outside mainstream science or beliefs doesnāt make it false. Throughout history, many things were considered impossible until they became understood - from electricity to quantum mechanics.
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I agree with Cassady, and will add a bit of my experience.
There were times when I created doubt in myself about the whole thing. And I wholeheartedly rejected the man I now call TF. Even before my knowledge about TF, there was a time when I really pushed him out of my head and out of my life because our situation was (and is) complicated.
But instead of peace I was getting a horrible stomach ache. He would just NOT go away. It was scary. After that, I started to learn what TF isā¦
And even after that, there were still many times I had my doubts and wanted to end it all, to truly let go of him and his girlfriend, and the whole situation.
Hell no, itās still coming back. The good memories come back. Love comes back. Now I live with it, without showing up in his life. That said though, I know well that he is my TF and he is MY partner. I know this precisely ā I sincerely questioned it. And now itās his turn to lose me, to figure out who I am to him.
This could go on for years. My only faith here is that God will not let me live in the void for so many years. Heāll either come sooner or Iāll be able to forget him.
Iām raising my standards for myself. And if before I knew I couldnāt forgive him only for having a child with her, now I canāt even forgive him for going to another country to be with her.
These are my boundaries. My god, up until a year ago in my mind I was āreadyā to wait for him while he making mistakes with her. Iāve really grown to love myself! And I want more. I want to get to the point where I donāt forgive him for even a momentās hesitation about who his true partner is.
As for sanity, I recommend you watch the Manifest TV series. I was going crazy until I saw it. I found my peace there.
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Hmmmm. Meeting our twins is not for the faint hearted if one isnāt prepared for the major upheavals that arise. 6 months after meeting mine came our turning point, the soul recognition which triggered awakening for the pair of us. Unfortunately I reacted badly to it not helped by the fact Iād had some mental health issues beforehand. Suddenly it felt like I was going insane in every way imaginable as my life was turned upside down and was feeling the strangest things. I had absolutely no idea what was happening or why and sadly came to the conclusion I was in the process of a mental breakdown, went to my doctors, prescribed and took anti-depressives and WHAM. That killed my awakening dead in the water so technically was the first time I āranā from my twin. My twin meanwhile continued awakening and now seeing me reduced to being a near vegetable, incapable of accessing my feelings as the meds totally neutered them, that helped send her off on a path of self destruction as she couldnāt get through to me. I was on and off the meds over our time together and yes, when I was clean were the times we harmonised and magical things happened. Eventually Iād start feeling like I was losing my mind again so would flee back to the doctor andā¦ wash, rinse, repeat. It was devastating for my twin as theyād enjoy me coming back to life, being myself and enjoying lovely times yet every time Iād run back to the doctor, not having the slightest inkling how that was hurting and affecting my twin. After 7 years of this, my twin ran and I sank into 8 years of absolute hell and it took therapy to bring that to an end and with it any need for relying on meds.
I rebuilt my life from scratch and everything was going great, a stable life, relocated, decent job etc. Suddenly, something triggered me in 2023 when for the first time in years I got to talk about my twin with somebody that used to know themā¦ it was utterly surreal as every time their name was mentioned, I felt these explosive waves of energy flooding through my body - my long delayed awakening kicked in. It was almost like an action replay of many years before only this time minus my twin. The first month was one of the most confusing and dramatic times of my life which years earlier would have had me running and screaming to the doctor but this time felt ādifferentā in that I let it all be. I knew something important was happening to me and that it involved my twin and I began doing research, stumbled across ātwin flamesā and suddenly there it was - the missing piece of the jigsaw and everything finally began to make sense. No denying though there were days when I questioned my sanity, especially when some 5D experiences occurred as becoming spiritually attuned was a totally new experience for me. Now everythingās fine. Iāve accepted whatās happening, know Iām on a unique journey and may at some time reunite with my twin BUT part of me does wish back then I had a better idea of what was happening and why as maybe I would not had run to the doctor and I do wonder how many other twins found themselves in a similar predicament, feeling like they were losing their sanity and mistakenly attributing it to mental illness and being put on medication that removes oneās capability for feelings and emotions as of course it is CRUCIAL one is able to access and process their feelings which I couldnāt when on meds hence it caused much damage, drama and confusion for the pair of us. OK, again, Iāve accepted that as it happened the way it did because I guess that was how it was scripted so weād both learn from the darker elements as opposed to me fully embracing my twin and the spiritual journey, butā¦ such is life and the dense complexities of the TF journeyā¦
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I can completely empathise with what you are going through. My TF and I are going through a strange period; we are currently not speaking. He has again ghosted me for no reason; the last time I heard from him was Christmas. My TF is married with two children, and he moved countries to be with his family
Despite my efforts to let go, move on, forget. There are signs and synchronicities everywhere. Initials. Numbers. Songs. Signs that remind me of him. I often ask myself if my belief in this connection is just my wishful thinking or if it is real.
Our story is long and complicated; we are each otherās first loves when we were 17. We separated. He got married. And we reunited two years ago after 22 years of silence.
I have to turn my energy inward and stop obsessing whether or not it is real or just all in my head. I think time will eventually unravel the mystery of it all. But for now, I need to focus on myself. I hope you can too. Sending love and strength. You are not alone
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Thank you for this. I was a little (a lot) emotionally compromised last night, lol.
It took round after round of doubting myself for me to just finally accept it was all real and have been focused on myself and healing for a while now. Slowly Iāve grown stronger, more sure of myself, more emotionally stable. Many core wounds have been healed. No matter what, Iāll continue down that path because I constantly see the benefits the TF journey has taught me. 
But this time the doubt is so bad, itās cracked this new foundation of self trust at a crucial time in my life when I badly need to be sure of myself, and its so deeply upsetting to think that somehow my brain could concoct such undeniable experiences. I just donāt see how itās possible. I truly, truly do not.
Itās also hard that the only person who could give me the truth (either way), my TF, just wonāt. So I feel like Iāll never truly know whatās going on with me, and rebuilding my self trust this time will be extra brutal 
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I read one of your previous entries @StarGirl, and Iām not gonna lie, I felt a little uneasy about what you wrote.
Please donāt take this the wrong way.
I know its easy to focus on the negativity of past hurts, but its also important to acknowledge the positives too.
It seems that your husband has indeed realized how much this marriage means to them, and has made efforts to change their ways.
This kind of change is not simple or easy. It takes time, and real, genuine dedication!
But instead of acknowledging and supporting them in this change, you were ready to abandon them.
Should a similar dynamic ever occur between you and your twin flame, are you likely to do the same and abandon them for a soulmate?
Maybe try to think of this as a form of ādivine interventionā. Perhaps there is more value to your marriage than you realize.
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Thank you for your comment, but I am surprised to hear youād consider the victim of abuse to be āabandoningā the abusive spouse, given you read my original post where I trauma-spewed too many details on this.
Also, I am not leaving for my TF or anyone but myself and my kids, and expect a life alone.
But yes if I ended up with another abusive person, be it my TF, or soulmate, whatever, I would absolutely leave. I am thankfully strong enough to stand for myself now (sans the issue this thread is about which threatens that new strength, hence why this is so important to me).
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Thatās because deep down, no matter how hard I try, Iām still positively naive, just like everyone else. Iām still hopeful that people can change and work on improving themselvs, no matter how poorly theyāve behaved in the past.
Count on me to find light in the most nocturnal of places.
Ironically, Iām always the one teasing my twin flame for being this way, and look at me now. 
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I get you, I am the same exact way, completely! I believe the best in everyone and look for the happy light in everything. Unfortunately, that belief also kept me trapped in a dangerous situation for way too long, and inadvertantly kept HIM from healing because my constant understanding and willingness to work with him left him without motivation to face himself. Perhaps with me gone heāll be able to finally heal this, and live a happier life free of his abusive cycles.
Funny enough, this also sounds like my TF journey, and the overall TF journey for most people. The chaser keeps chasing, giving, loving, hoping, forgiving. Lowering all boundaries to find answers and a way through difficulties, while the Runner does everything they can to do the opposite. Never having to face themselves because the chaser is always there filling the void of effort that fear creates.
So perhaps the lessons are the same; if someone is hurting you, draw a boundary and leave. Because you canāt make anyone change and they sure wonāt look after you, so you have to take care of yourself first. Just wish that wasnāt so hard to do! 
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On the note of questioning sanity, someone brought up that they feel comforted by so many others have had the exact same phenomenons happen to them. This has been my only comfort as well. When I was first triggered by him into a Kundalini Awakening, and the sudden energy awareness and sensations, I thought I was crazy.
Then after a few months of it not ceasing, I came across the term āTwin Flameā (something Iāve never heard of before, and would never have believed) and it was the only thing the perfectly described what I was going through. Everything Iāve learned in research came after I experienced these phenomenon for the first time (versus knowing ahead of time what to look for). So I do find it highly unlikely my brain could concoct such ādelusionsā that end up being what so many others experienced.
Anyway, still donāt know what to think, as what triggered my current disbelief was my TF saying something that pulled the rug out of much of my experience with him (one of the only real clues heās given me). Just taking it slow. Iām just wary of (for any familiar) leaving to start a life alone as a single parent of 4 if my brain is somehow that messed up. At least I have grown compassion for myself on this, given how a life of abuse trains you to not trust yourself, experiencing the TF phenomena is extra brutal to accept. Just wish my TF had that compassion too to give me real answers.
We can only hope. 
Completely agree. The line has to be drawn somewhere. At the end of the day, as humans, we can only tolerate a limited amount of pain.
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The āholy shit this is realā moment for me was actually the first time I got a twin flame reiki session from Carla. I woke up with pressure in the top of my head (her prerecorded video said my crown chakra needed work) and over the next few days, I experienced emotional outbursts and other physical sensations I had never had before. No clue if my twin experienced similar things, but I assume she did.
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Doubt is normal. Healthy. I think weāve all been there.
It would probably be crazier if we didnāt doubt.
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I spent years doubting my own reality due to gaslighting, but what helped me most wasnāt getting validation from my twin - it was realizing that the deep inner knowing I felt (even when terrified I was ācrazyā) was actually my soul finally learning to trust itself again after years of being told not to.
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Questioning itself is a healthy sign that youāve learned to trust your own reality.
A heightened sensitivity and doubt can be your inner self breaking free from years of being told to doubt your perceptions. I went through something similar after leaving an abusive relationship, that raw, vulnerable feeling of questioning everything, but I realized that the very fact I could feel these deep soul connections so strongly meant my true self was finally emerging from beneath all the gaslighting and suppression.
And @redpanda is right, the healthy answer is the same either way.
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It makes me crazy the way trauma makes us doubt the most genuine, soul-deep experiences we have, like our minds are desperately trying to fit profound spiritual connections into the tiny box of ālogical explanationā because weāve been conditioned to mistrust anything we canāt physically prove.
I spent two years convinced I was losing my mind, documenting every synchronicity and energy surge like some obsessed detective, until I finally realized that my desperate need for validation was actually blocking me from fully embracing what my soul already knew was true.
The irony is that once I stopped trying to prove my twin flame connection was ārealā and just accepted that I might never have concrete proof, all that energy Iād been wasting on doubt transformed into the exact self-trust Iād been seeking all along.
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