Does anybody think that if it’s not with your twin flame it’s no one else ? I have been thinking about this a lot recently. I don’t see myself with anyone and if I did they couldn’t compare to how my twin makes me feel. If I did (which I wouldn’t) I would just think of her the whole time sadly. Any thoughts or insights? I’m curious to what you guys think about this. I’m okay with being alone, but it’s a lot to think about knowing I have my whole life ahead of me(I’m 20)
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I can understand where you’re coming from @ChrisGonz05. I’ve been on this journey for a while, and have met many people who aren’t able to be with their Twins, but have found happiness and peace with a soulmate. Regardless of what you choose, follow your heart, and choose happiness above anything else.
I have tried dating other people after reconnection with my Twin, it was during the time we were in the midst of one of our separation periods and I was not yet aware of our connection at the time. But after that “experiment” I realized that it wouldn’t be fair to someone else if I dated them knowing that my Twin would always be number one in my mind and heart.
Each person’s journey is different and unique, and how you feel now may not be how you feel in a few years. Just be open to the various experiences that this journey will bring you. Learn to love yourself (something I am still learning too), and choose to surround yourself with things and people who make you happy.
Sending you strength and peace. This journey isn’t for the faint of heart. I’m still on it and every day is a rollercoaster. x
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I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again : the fact that I am still married with my twin even though we’re in separation for 2 and a half year for me it amplifies this feeling.
Moving on for me is impossible - every fiber of my being is still dedicated to my vows, and I cannot separate my marriage from my spiritual journey, my heart won’t allow it.
My twin even started the divorce process last year, and it’s just so weird, like it doesn’t make any sense (though it did allow us for some talking, which otherwise would’ve been silence). I do believe divorce was not her plan, but that it kinda turned into it despite her and once the process started she just called down ALOT, her attitude changed drastically towards me, and then she just shut down and backed off.
So she stopped the process, and I’m in no contact again for about 10 months now (tho she did write an email in January, but it was unrelated to us and very avoidish other than for the question she needed an answer for).
Being ghosted by your twin while married with this very same person is a fucking challenge, let me tell you.
I keep saying that if my marriage with her fails, my love life fails. There is absolutely no way I could find the level of fulfillment I had with my twin in the 9 years together - she’s everything: my wife, my best friend, my accomplice, my family, my reason to stand strong and fight, the one I waited for all my life before I laid eyes on her, the one my entire being is convinced to have been born to unconditionally love through everything.
All I can see for my future is this relationship back on track in a so better version, with my wife finally healed (she’s working so hard on it right now) and our “You, Me, Us” balanced out to its healthy equal state.
Any other romantic relationship is pointless to me, and the world without her by my side feels cold and empty.
I do believe some twins are meant to stay in separation in this lifetime to evolve alongside other soul connections, and others are in union blueprints. I’m convinced my wife and I’s current blueprint is taking us to union. That’s what my soul whispers to me - “don’t give up on your marriage, cause she’ll be back stronger than ever.”
(she’s very close to come back, signs are very clear about this lately and it’s keeping the pace)
So, yeah, I get how you feel.
My advice would be to maybe just listen carefully to your soul and you will find YOUR way through this. Trust your intuition concerning your blueprint, cause this map is already inside of you. We just need to learn to listen.
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Thank you for sharing your story. I really appreciate it. I’m sorry to hear all that you’re going through, but I hope it has made both of you stronger for each other. I believe that these trials are supposed to help us grow so that we can come back together stronger than even. You know nothing good comes easy ! Sending love your way and hoping that you and your twin come back stronger than ever ! I feel how you feel when it comes to never finding another like her again. It’s like not even an option honestly. The love is like no other and to me it never will be. Thanks for sharing once again friend❤️🔥
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You’re welcome.
20 years old is so young to be in this reflective state about your love life !
But again, I was single from 17 yo to 27 yo when I met my twin. I had a serious relationship from 15 to 17 with a girl (hey, being a lesbian in highschool in 2002-2004 deserves recognition lol).
When this relationship ended, I embarked on a journey of self discovery and deep healing. For about a decade, I would be all into getting to know myself better, forge my self-love, and everything. I always said I’ve been “growing” for longer than most around me, and that I always felt more mature than most for my age since childhood. Growing and maturing has always been very important to me.
That decade - my twenties - I was never interested in dating and all those relationships around me that felt so off… It was as if I knew I was just getting ready to meet my twin. I do believe I needed to be more advanced in my healing and more emotionally mature to help her out once I met her. Our 9 years together also showed me just that, and now in separation this idea makes even more sense.
I’m learning patience more than anything in this current separation (and how to trust my intuition and tools like tarot). Of course, some healing and allignement was necessary, but a lot of my inner work was done before I met her. This actually allows me today to keep our marriage together while she does her healing. I’m in a place where I am strong enough in myself and my beliefs that I am able to reject everything that blocks the way, and to funnel the energy towards our success. I wouldn’t be able to do that without my inner work from before.
They say twin flames chose their challenges, decide their blueprint before coming down on Earth - well, pretty convinced our blueprint is what I just described.
So, again, I feel you. 20 yo is so young, though, but if you are truly a twin flame, trust your guts - your soul is showing you the way. Time is, however, very challenging, cause Earthly time is definitely not the time our souls work with…
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Yes I feel as if I’m mature for my age. I’ve always had a big heart and have been sensitive but it was diminished by others until my awakening when I was 15. I’ve always been one to love others, and now I’m learning to love myself. That’s all because of my twin helping me realize that self love matters more. When did you become spiritually aware? It seems like you have always been aware of yourself and aware of what you wanted. I relate to you when it comes to always wanting to better, it seem like everyone around me never felt that way. How has the 9 years been for you ? I bet it’s been a roller coaster lol I’ve been on this journey for about 2 and it’s been nothing but hard lol. Yes I feel like patience is a big part of these twin flame connections, it always seems like the universe pushes me to my limits when it comes to patience. It feels good though because you can feel yourself growing in it. Thank you for sharing it feels really good to hear you say these things. I’ve always felt like no one understands me but the universe. Connection is hard to come by nowadays. I really wish you the best let me know if you and your twin come back together soon❤️🔥 yeah time is the hard thing. I feel it as seasons but more like waves. Sometimes I’m drowning and can’t breathe other times I’m surfing and enjoying life. Surrendering is what I’ve come to do nowadays but can still be so hard sometimes. Thankss again!
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Ah, that would be very long to explain ahahah (I do plan on writing a book some day).
The 9 years together had challenges, indeed, but that was still very fulfilling. Our couple was somewhat an example of what people around us were aiming to find - a power couple noone would’ve thought would split like we did (suddenly). It was her inner fight that got the best of her, and she lost her way in it, and I lost mine alongside her without realizing it, and things got complicated and she panicked and ran away. What I saw from that day on was a version of my wife I never saw before, and I knew she was only lost but that the fight for our marriage was going to be very long and difficult (it’s like I understood the necessity of “separation” before I even knew about twin flames…). Her coming back to me always felt like a certainty (I’m guessing my soul was telling me about our unbreakable connection).
You can catch some of my story in my previous posts, such as in the following threads : How is your faith doing?, Separation within the marriage or Can You Marry Your Twin Flame?
I’ll out camping all week, but feel free to ask questions and I’ll reply when I’m back. 
Its quite possible you will re unite with your twin! Dont give up yet! You are young and this is a process that can take years, and you, and she, have to do the inner work, l realy recomend looking up Awakening Meraki, l found her on UTube after looking at loads, most just wanting to exploit our misery!! She has helped me a lot, read and listen, re read, and re listen, it starts to make sense, and things realy do change! I am so close now to re uniting with my twin, and l never would have got there without her! Sending you a big hug!
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Hmm, maybe I do. Only in my current situation it’s a lot more about worrying for my future. “Making my nest”, you can say. I have neurodivergency (it could pass down to my child), job market is crashing, my country is in riot.
I still have that distant certainty of being reunited with my twin, but otherwise right now romance and marriage seems not it for me.
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Have you ever listened to “Anyone” by Justin Beiber? Set aside the idea that you may not like him or his music and just listen to the song, or at least read the lyrics…
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Been there… That’s why I am sure he is the man. I was like, ‘Okay, but what if it’s not him?’ And then it hit me — there is no sense in anything, in anybody. Just an empty soul hanging around. And the moment I decided it’s him, there was love, color, fullness, happiness, etc.
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I’ll check it out I like Justin ! At least some of his songs lol.
The first time I heard it, and I actually listened to the lyrics…I started crying so hard, I felt every word!
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Thanks for recommending it to me ! I love it and it’s definitely getting played at my wedding when I marry my twin!
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It’s so funny you say that because I had a dream not long after the first time I heard that song that I danced with my twin at OUR wedding to that song! 
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Thats awesome! I hope that comes true for you ! I know it’s something I wish to come true lol, I’m manifesting it🙂↕️
I’m manifesting it too, I have been for years though…guess I’m not that good at manifesting 
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Lol same here. All we can do is try our best. I hope the best for you because I feel how you feel. Thanks for recommending the song !
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You’re very welcome! And I wish you the best of luck and a happy reunion with your twin!
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After being able to reflect for a long time on my own, I came to the conclusion that the man I thought was my “twin flame” wasn’t the one, but he triggered a lot of memories of my truly divine partner. I’m glad I didn’t have a long-term crush on someone who was never worthy of me. Now I know my real one exists somewhere, that’s the reason why this stage of inner awakening happened to me.
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